How To Be Successful In Driving Change Within & Around Us ?

Aren't you envision a continuous change within or around you ? We all want change for our better future but you know that getting success in change is quite hard by leaving comfort zones , walking on unfamiliar paths , shaking the pleasures related to old identity patterns etc and you might have observed like me either I have bounced back in old patterns unsuccessfully number of times and similarly many people whom I interacted across the globe have done that and moved back with more frustration . Let's know something about it at deeper level and devise a simple strategy to be successfully next time .

Despite the need of immediate change , why we don't feel the urge of Change?

Some of you may be familiar with what is known as the boiled frog syndrome. According to research done in the late 1800s, frogs’ nervous systems are unable to distinguish incremental changes in temperature or pressure. Therefore, if you were to put a frog in a pan of water and raise the temperature very gradually, eventually the frog would boil to death without noticing that the water was getting hot. However, if you put a frog in a pot of already hot water, or increase the heat quickly, it will jump right out.

We humans tend to experience this in a number of domains. Many of us don’t pay close attention to slight changes in our emotional state, our health, or our performance in our jobs. Raising (or cooling) the water temperature slowly is the slow breakdown. It’s the job that isn’t great, but isn’t awful. It’s the team that’s showing signs of increasing difficulty, but it hasn’t really impacted the work—a lot—yet. It’s the subtle signs that the organization isn’t overjoyed with our work, or our management style, or our choices. Often we live with a low level of pain in one or more areas of our lives, to the point that the pain becomes invisible to us. It is so familiar that we no longer see it. On the surface, we may realize that things aren’t quite what we want them to be or that we’re not as happy as we expected to be, but we tell ourselves that that’s just the way life is—our expectations were too high, just live with it. Alternatively, we think we can’t change it—it will take too much energy or risk, or change who we fundamentally are. And all the while, it’s sapping our energy, keeping us from the future we desire and deserve.

Sometimes, when I as Coach turns the coachee attention to the heat, it helps him both see the current state with all its warts and more clearly envision the life or situation that they truly desire, it shifts the perspective and allows them to see new possibilities—and to have the energy to bring them to reality.

Equation For Change

Discomfort X Vision = Energy for Change

Our rising awareness of discomfort or dissonance helps us stop and reflect—and really think about what we do want. This vision of the present allows us then to have a point of comparison to our future vision and shows us where we need to take action to create the situation we desire.

I as Coach , Intentionally , helps the people to see or experience more fully the discomfort they’re in or headed for. How? By keeping the mirror up that reflects the breakdown as a breakdown. This may increase their perceived level of pain, though the intent is merely to see it more accurately and free up energy to create the future desires.

You can do this through structured self-observation exercises and self-reflection. For example, to what extent are you creating the results you want, and what’s the story you’re telling yourself about where you are and are not? Where is the friction, the nagging, annoying, or empty places? You can focus them intellectually, in terms of the emotions you are experiencing with it, the physical sensations, and how they show up.

In addition to , I deliberately helps experience with people across the world find spots of joy. . The joy provides an oasis, a place to rest and recharge during the process of change. When they think of these elements of joy and life, how do their emotions shift? What do they notice in their body—sensations, form? I help them to own these and build from them. Moreover, facilitates them to author or flesh out an alternative vision of a truly compelling future, one that speaks to who they are and what they value. Have them envision this fully—intellectually . What brings more life to it? This all provides the pull to the future as well as a point of comparison to the life they are currently leading, which helps them to discern where there are opportunities for change and growth .

To summarize , if you truly have desire to change , and this feeling pumps up quite often within you , then first accept the current breakdown and reflect its impact on different areas of life and reviews strategically , if you don't sense , accept and take actions to cope it , how's things will look like in near or distant future ? What opportunities you will lose ? Alternatively , shift your focus on joy , you will be feeling by living at track of your vision , accomplishing your dreams .