How to Succeed in Achieving Your Goals

I’m sure like me you’ve probably set many goals, in business and in personal life and, unfortunately not quite achieved them. Well, in this article I will discuss how we can reach our goals. Based on personal experience and research I want to clear the mist and show a path we can take to finally reach these goals.

It all starts with Self Control.

Think back to the achievements in our own life—the ones we are most proud of. In all cases, we will have worked hard, persisted despite the difficulty, and stayed focused when it would have been much easier to just relax and not bother.

What we used was self-control - the ability to guide our actions in pursuit of our goal and to avoid temptation, distraction, and other demands. Self-control is much like a muscle. We need to work it, train it and not strain it.

Self-control is learned and developed and made stronger or weaker over time. If you want more self-control, you can get more. And you get more self-control the same way you get bigger muscles—you’ve got to give it regular workouts.

Why or What?

Do we really know what our goals are and are they set properly? My guess is not. We are often not specific enough - and in the absence of a specific goal and in the wrong context we are doomed to fail.

When actions are difficult to accomplish, we will find it is easier and much more helpful to think in simple, concrete ”WHAT” terms rather than lofty, more abstract “WHY” ones. What we want to achieve rather than why we want to achieve it. We should forget about the bigger picture and focus on the task at hand.

However, when we think “WHY” rather than “WHAT” we are less vulnerable to temptation and more likely to take better control. So, since both the “big picture” WHY and “nitty-gritty” WHAT modes of thinking have their advantages and disadvantages, the best strategy is to shift our thinking style to match the goal we want to achieve.

For long-term high-level goals, we should think “WHY” and for short-term objectives, we need to be more concrete and think “WHAT”. WHY thinking leads us to pay more attention to the desirability of goals. In other words, how fun, pleasant, or rewarding will it be?

More concrete, WHAT thinking leads us to place more weight on feasibility information—whether or not we can actually do whatever needs to be done. How likely are we to succeed? People who think to achieve their goal will be hard plan more, put in more effort, and take more action in pursuit of their goals. 

On the other hand, she suggests people who think that reaching their goal will be easy aren’t prepared for what lies ahead of them and can be devastated when their dreams don’t actually come true.

Consequently, the optimal strategy to use when setting a goal seems to be to think positively about how things will feel when you achieve your goal while thinking realistically about what it will take to get there. 

When we are thinking about taking on a new goal, we must also think about the obstacles that stand in our way. 

The Wonderful Thing about Triggers

What aspects of our environment can trigger the unconscious pursuit of a goal?

In short just about anything can unconsciously affect our commitment to a goal: works, images, sounds, anything related to the goal can act as a trigger. Maybe now those “motivational” posters you see everywhere seem a little less silly, right?

Studies have shown that the mere presence of something that can help you achieve your goal can trigger it. Walking past the gym can trigger the goal of wanting to work out in it. So how can we influence our unconscious? 

Here are some tips:

1) Align the cues you create to your own lens

2) Know what is influencing you.

3) Know what you believe about your abilities.

4) Set up the right environment.

Good or Better?

The desire to show that we are smart or talented or capable of having a performance goal. When we pursue performance goals, our energy is directed at achieving a particular outcome—like getting an A on a test or reaching a sales target. We choose these goals because we think reaching them will give us a sense of validation and then we judge ourselves according to whether or not we are successful. 

On the other hand, the desire to get better and enhance our skills is a mastery goal. When people pursue mastery goals, they don’t judge themselves as much by whether they achieve a particular outcome. Instead, they judge themselves in terms of the progress they are making. These goals are about self-improvement rather than self-validation about becoming the best you can be rather than proving you are.

So which is best? 

When we are focused on getting better, rather than on being good, we benefit in two very important ways.

First, when things get tough we don’t get so discouraged. 

Second, when we start to have doubts about how well we are doing, we are more likely to stay motivated because we can still learn. So if we choose get-better goals, we have greater success because we enjoy the process of getting better.

If we focus on growth instead of validation, we are less likely to get depressed because we won’t see setbacks and failures as reflecting our own self-worth and we are less likely to stay depressed, because feeling bad makes us want to work harder and keep striving. 

Promotion or Prevention?

Another complementary pair of goal definitions.

When we pursue a promotion goal we are trying to gain something. When it’s about gain, we are going to be motivated both by high value and a high likelihood of success. In fact, the more valuable the goal, the more we care about our chances of success.

But when we are pursuing a prevention goal, we are trying to avoid a loss. It’s about being safe and avoiding danger. A high-value prevention goal is one where safety really matters and where failure is particularly dangerous. So the more valuable the goal, the more we see reaching it as a necessity. 

To be optimistic is valuable, particularly in pursuit of achievements – promotion goals. Realism, on the other hand, is invaluable in pursuit of security or avoiding disastrous losses – prevention goals. 

Making goals our own.

The greatest motivation and most personal satisfaction we achieve are from those goals that we choose for ourselves. Research has shown that when people feel they have choices, and that they are an integral part of creating their own destiny, they are more motivated and successful.

Providing a feeling of choice and acknowledging people’s inner experience shifts their sense of control back to them and makes them feel like they are in charge of their own actions. It isn’t so much actual freedom of choice that matters but the feeling of choice. Choice provides a sense of self-determination, even when the choice is inconsequential or imagined. 

if a goal is internalized, we get increased motivation, better performance, enjoyment and an increased desire to work. We also avoid the hassle of having to provide controls or incentives to bring about the behavior we are after.

Bringing it all together.

Here are a few strategies to follow when we have established the lens of our goal.

When achieving our goal means doing something easy, straightforward, or familiar, we are probably better off focusing on a be good, performance goal.

But what if they are not so easy?  

We can benefit from changing our thinking from why to what. Literal what-do-I-need-to-do-to-reach-this-goal thinking is enormously helpful when we are pursuing challenging goals.

What about the distraction of doing something else? Overcoming temptation is hard. It usually requires a lot of self-control. This is another situation where it pays to think of our goals in terms of why rather than what. Giving our goal a prevention focus is also an excellent way to beef up our resistance.

What if we need to get something done quickly?

The answer is a simple one although the task may not be—give our goal a promotion focus.

Which kinds of goals work best when we want to be inspired?

Giving our goal a promotion focus can heighten our creative powers. So, too, can goals that are of our own making—goals that fulfill our basic need for autonomy. In general, goals that are autonomously chosen are much more interesting and enjoyable to pursue than those that are chosen for us.

What if we want to have fun along the way?

Try focusing on getting better, rather than on being good. 

Be Prepared Redux

Ok, so now we know how to identify and set our goals appropriately. But beware, it’s still not smooth sailing. There are still barriers to overcome.

There are plenty of different mistakes we can make, but the one most frequently responsible for our troubles is that we miss opportunities to act in a timely manner. We are regularly given, whether we notice or not, opportunities to act on our goals. But in most cases when one arises, we chose to do something else.

There is no strategy more effective for fighting off these goal blocking situations than making an If-Then plan.

Simply put when you find yourself in a situation (IF) then you carry out a goal attaining action (THEN).

For example: If I’m watching TV then I’ll sit up straight to help my posture. If it’s Monday morning, I’ll go to the gym before work to get fitter. If I’ve had a large lunch, I’ll have a salad for dinner.

So it’s back to self-control.

We can use the acronym H.A.L.T. to remind ourselves of circumstances where our self-control may drop: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. In each of these situations self-control is threatened so what do we do?

If we reach for the comfort food or activity it’s hard to get back on the wagon. Stopping before we start is an excellent strategy to keep our need for self-control to a minimum.

Secondly, focus on how well we’ve been doing and to consider just how much an effect on that progress, falling off the wagon would be. 

Thirdly, whatever we do, don’t try to pursue two goals at once that both require a lot of self-control. In these situations, it’s hard to decide which to do and consequently, we are likely not to do either.

Finally, here’s one last strategy for overcoming a total loss of willpower: we should reward ourselves for being good. After all, a reward celebrates success and success is a goal we are after, isn’t it?