How to Stop Self-sabotaging Our Success Our Life Our Happiness and Our Relationships

If I ask anyone in this world – do you want to be Happy, Rich, Successful, Powerful, Peaceful, Blissful, Have Strong Relationship with Important People, Grow Beyond Your Existing Self-image and Self-perception.

I doubt if anyone's answer will be NO.

We spend our entire life chasing these by putting our total attention, utmost efforts and complete dedication to accomplish them.

You would be surprised to know that many people sabotage these themselves – when they have already reached or on the verge of a great success or in the peak of a wonderful relationship.

Many self-sabotaging behaviors happens – when YOU FEEL LIKE THINGS ARE GOING TOO WELL and can't be better.

Difficult to believe.

Self-Sabotage is the act of destroying, buying-back or undermining yourself through destructive behaviors directed towards you which happens subtly and sub-consciously.

In many cases they have psychological reasons and require professional expert interventions, treatments and therapies.

Then you will find there are many people who have desires to be successful and powerful – but they get scared handling the power and glory attached with it – so either they walk away at the last moment or give-up on their efforts at last moment.

There are also those who are actually accomplished in one area but display these self-sabotaging behaviors – in other areas of life.

Many of us may be self-sabotaging our life, our success, our happiness, our relationships - without even realizing it.

In this article you will learn

• -36 Signs of Self-Sabotage in Success
• -56 Signs of Self-Sabotaging in Relationship
• -16 Reasons Why We Self-Sabotage
• -18 Ways to Stop Self-sabotaging your Relationship
• -15 Tips WHAT WE CAN DO stop Self-sabotaging in other areas
• -What causes Self-sabotage behavior in us

36 Signs of Self-Sabotage in Success

• 1.You are focused on instant gratification
• 2.Self-care does not have any priority in your schedule
• 3.You expect yourself to succeed - without scheduling time for planning and implementing appropriate actions to accomplish them.
• 4.You set your happiness and success as being dependent on other people
• 5.You research endlessly, trying to find perfect solutions – making them complicated and complex
• 6.You prefer to remain stuck in those patterns – even though it is creating chaos in your other areas of life
• 7.You complain about other people's behavior when you need to make the same change yourself – meaning you project your deficiencies on other people
• 8.You operate solely on your perception of what a situation is - rather than dealing with reality
• 9.You don't acknowledge the valid points other people make
• 10. You have emotional triggers – when they are pressed - results in out-of-proportion reactions

56 Signs of Self-Sabotaging in Relationship

Check how many applies to you – if more than 20% applies to you then please take corrective-measures immediately – before this relationship cracks and heads towards breakup[if it not already on the rock]

• 1.You have the exceptional ability to find the needle in the haystack – meaning a small fault among the loads and loads of positives
• 2.You notice only the negatives in your partner – however trivial
• 3.You fail to notice the significant positive contribution and value-adding that they are making in your life
• 4.Even if you notice them – you only remember only the negatives
• 5.You accuse, blame, criticize – under the guise of being hurt [from the reasons that have been created through your internal meaning-generating-machine and magnified – rather than it being a fact]
• 6.You tend to criticize more – many times by telling your partner that you are sharing these for their benefits
• 7.You Have a compelling need to Be Right – and you take all the steps through engaging your partner in arguments – when none is required or has any provocation
• 8.If your partner make you realize that you were wrong or that mistake was entirely your fault – you hold grudge against him/her
• 9.You have a special storage inside you – where you accumulate – all the grudges – that needs a small trigger to come exploding out of you
• 10. You Take Everything Personally – even jokes on one time – although that person praises and compliments you most of the time on those qualities

For full read "Are you self-sabotaging your relationship success and happiness" in Success Unlimited Mantra's Blog section "From the Heart of Subhashis"