How to Stop Playing Small (or too safe)

Have you ever found yourself shying away from opportunities because they felt too risky, too unknown? If that resonates, you're not alone. Many of us hold back from pursuing our dreams due to fears of instability, rejection, or self-doubt. Yet, what if I told you that playing it safe could actually be the riskier move in the long run, particularly when it comes to your career and personal growth?

In a recent SPARKED podcast episode, I had the privilege of discussing this very topic with Deborah T. Owens , a seasoned executive coach and advocate for professionals, especially women of color, navigating workplace challenges. Our conversation unveiled some crucial insights on why we often play it safe and how we can courageously shift towards playing bigger roles in our lives and careers. Here are the key takeaways:

1. The Illusion of Safety in Playing Small: Many of us opt for lateral, rather than higher-level career moves or shy away from new opportunities because it feels safer. Yet, this safety is often an illusion, fueled by self-limiting beliefs and stories we tell ourselves about what we can or cannot achieve. Recognizing and challenging these stories is the first step towards breaking free from this cycle and embracing growth.

2. The Importance of Stretching Beyond Comfort Zones: True growth and excitement lie just beyond our comfort zones. By only pursuing what feels safe and achievable, we miss out on the chance to learn, grow, and achieve something truly meaningful. Embracing a bit of discomfort can lead to significant personal and professional development, offering us opportunities to stretch our capabilities and reach new heights.

3.Confronting and Changing the Narratives: We often hold ourselves back with narratives that justify playing it safe. Whether it's fear of failure, rejection, or not being ready, these stories prevent us from taking bold steps forward. By identifying and actively changing these narratives, we can begin to see ourselves as capable of more than we previously imagined.

4. Evaluating Your Success Beyond Traditional Metrics: As we navigate our careers and personal journeys, it's crucial to define what success looks like on our own terms. This might include factors like joy, passion, learning, and growth, rather than just promotions or financial gains. Reflecting on what truly matters to us can guide our decisions and actions towards more fulfilling and impactful endeavors.

5. The Power of Authenticity and Vulnerability: In a world that often values conformity, daring to be authentic and vulnerable can be a superpower. Sharing your true self, passions, and values openly can not only enrich your own life but also inspire and encourage others to do the same. This authenticity can lead to deeper connections, more meaningful work, and a greater sense of fulfillment.

My conversation with Deborah Owens sheds light on the transformative power of stepping out of our safety zones and embracing the possibilities that lie in uncertainty and risk. It's a call to action for anyone feeling stuck in the comfort of playing it small. As we move forward, let's challenge ourselves to dream bigger, push boundaries, and unlock our full potential.

For those eager to dive deeper into this conversation and discover more about navigating these pivotal moments, I invite you to listen to the full episode of SPARKED. Join us as we explore actionable strategies and insights for breaking free from self-imposed limits and stepping into a life of greater courage, purpose, and fulfillment. #CareerAdvice #ProfessionalDevelopment

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