How to Stop Negative Self-Talk
Lori L. Shemek, PhD
Inflammation Expert | Bestselling Author | Speaker | Huff Post Top Health Expert | CBS The Doctors TV |
Every day I witness a tremendous amount of negative talk regarding how people feel about themselves and I see the consequences. It is the continuous stream of destructive self-talk and negative thoughts that prevent us from reaching our fullest potential - potential that is just waiting there for you.
What is important to note here is: the thoughts we think determine the outcome of our lives. You are a product of your environment. What you think, what you believe, all equate to what manifests in your life.
Guess what conducts your life experience? The Grand Master: CHOICE.
You get to choose the thoughts you think. It's easy to go negative because we have been trained and continue to train ourselves to focus on our perceived limitations and more. But what about going positive? What about truly knowing that you are an amazing worthwhile and an inherently beautiful person who deserves to have all that is good in this world?
Most people are habitually very self-critical. And these habitual negative thoughts play out in our lives in a multitude of ways. Negative thinking is a habit and all habits can be changed. Habits require very little thought process and no will power--they are effortless and automatic.
Implement These 3 Success Keys to Create the Life You Desire:
Break the Ultimate Goal into Small Steps to Break Negativity
To create new habits, start with small steps. For example, if you are trying to stop the habit of negative self-talk, instead of stopping a habit cold turkey, resolve to immediately shift to positive self-talk once a day for a week - increase this week by week. The action of shifting to positive self-talk will then create success for you and that success will motivate you to move forward until it becomes automatic and thus, a different life experience.
Be Consistent!
Consistency is key as the daily practice will create stronger neuronal connections which then allow the new positive behavior to become automatic - a habit. Every time you think a negative thought - replace it with a positive one.
Start a Journal.
The act of writing down your thoughts will help not only with stress reduction, but will help you to objectively see where self-criticism and negative thinking enter into your life. This information is vital in creating a new paradigm for you.
You are what you think. By purposefully making a choice to stay away from negative thoughts, you will see a whole new world open up to you. Remember, what you think about you and your world is what your life experience will become. So if you feel you are not worthwhile in any capacity..then guess what? Your life experience will be less than what you deserve. However, if you choose to think differently by making a decision to focus on what is good in your life, what you want to have happen and to think more positively, you will then live the life you love.
Choose wisely...
Living a healthy life with mental-wellbeing is easy once you have the knowledge and motivation. If you would like to learn more about how to create a healthy life - one that you deserve, check out my website, feel free to contact me and download the free Metabolism Masterclass eBook: https://DrLoriShemek.com/
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5 年It is impossible to feel gratitude and any other negative emotion at the same time. I know that it takes discipline to overcome some of those learned habits of latching on to the negative mindset. Starting each day and ending each night with a genuine attitude of gratitude, can really help to overcome this habitual and destructive behavior . Thanks Lori, for a plan to accentuate the positive!
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5 年Great article, Lori! Congratulations! Everyone should read it. :-)?
Fitness, Health and Wellness Management and Leadership
5 年Great article. This can be generational, the anxiety to succeed and be our best. I have fell victim to this, with all the successes and positive affirmations failure can grab you like quicksand. My biggest contribution to success is who I surround myself with, especially during the fail phases, never be afraid to talk and share, therapy.
Author of Strategic Thought Leadership | Thought Leadership Coach & Consultant | Host, Thought Leadership Studio Podcast | Creator of the THAUT Process
5 年Great points. I think the quality of the inner voice is important too. Turn the volume of the critical voice down and give the supportive, positive inner coach voice you encourage yourself with a volume boost, some nice resonance, and, maybe a chorus of backup singers singing "yep, he's right!"
Health Promotion Leader & Strategist; Associate Director, Workplace Wellness, Broward College
5 年Good points on negativity focused inward. This is common with older people, who refer to lapses in memory (such as forgetting the name of something, etc.) as "senior moments" and identifying themselves in derogatory terms. If we are to lessen the acceptance of age bias, elders must contribute by ceasing to portray themselves negatively. In fact, middle-aged people are doing this now as well, unfortunately. We don't hear young people saying they're having "adolescent moments" -? so let's encourage avoiding any age-related negativity!