How To Stop Kissing Frogs

I hear it all the time, "you've got to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince". That may be true in the beginning, when you’re younger because you don't know who you are. You don't know or understand your own personality nor can you quickly assess the personality of others.

Basically, you don’t know what you don’t know.

As you mature, you begin to understand yourself better. You know your likes and dislikes and you have ideas about what you want in a relationship. It begins to get easier because you’ve met some people and you’ve gone out on some dates.

The challenge is when you’ve come out of a relationship.

That’s when you get lost.

You’ve been out of the so called “game”.

You’ve lost your self confidence because let’s face it, most relationships end without focusing on conscious uncoupling. Most relationships end because people (either you or the other person) are afraid to speak up, don’t ask and answer questions with honesty and authenticity.

No judgement. I see it all the time and it happened to me, too.

Unfortunately most people, I hope it’s not you, aren't willing to get to know themselves.

Most people don’t believe in themselves.

Most people don’t value themselves.

Most don’t believe they’re worthy.

Most aren’t willing to invest in themselves.

You invest in yourself when it comes to your education.

You invest in yourself when it comes to your career.

But relationships?

Naah, that stuff you’re supposed to know already.

Why is that?

Did you grow up with loving parents who comfortably expressed love to their partner?

Did you have examples of people who attracted and dated and are now in a happy, loving relationship?

Did you go on the dates with those people to see how it’s done?

Probably not. If you’re like majority of the people in the world you probably didn’t have great examples which means you’re doing the same stuff so many of your role models did and you’re getting the same exact results.

It’s not your fault.

The fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree.

My parents were married for 36 years (until my father died). They met when my mother was babysitting with her friend and her friend invited her boyfriend and he brought my dad. They married 2 months later.

Things might have been easier back then because there were fewer choices. Now with dating apps, Facebook and everyone moving from one place to another you're able to meet more people.You would think that with more choices of people it would be easier to meet someone. But it’s harder now to meet people than ever before. And when people do meet, they’re making more wrong choices.

Women are kissing a lot more frogs and coming up empty handed.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

Investing in yourself can save you time, energy & a lot of frustration.

It doesn’t have to be with me. There’s so many ways that you can invest in yourself. But please choose something or someone.

Don’t leave it up to chance and for goddess sake, stop kissing so many frogs.

Date intentionally,

Elizabeth

P.S. If you’re ready to make a change, if you’re ready to do something differently, I invite you to get on a call with me. I’d like to help.

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