How to Start Mastering Self?
Cecile Randoing, Master Certified Coach
High-Powered Women Coach?Leadership Mentor?Speaker
Being a master of one Self is to clear our mind of beliefs, domestication, expectations, and emotional attachments. Thus releasing the autopilot mind and ending the war within ourselves. To reach personal freedom.
The 1st step to start mastering your Self, won't surprise you, because you know that I am a big fan of it: it's Observation.
Observe yourself, your thoughts, reactions, emotions. Notice the patterns.
Activate your observer self, and it will reveal who you think you are.
?The 2nd step is Awareness.
Your thoughts are constantly taking you into the future or the past, so, consequently, this is probably where you spend most of your life.
To be aware is to always keep coming back to what is happening NOW. The NOW is where you connect with your inner light, with your essence.
Being aware is to witness your thoughts, emotions, actions, and the world with non-attachment.
You can practice being in the now and aware through meditation, conscious breathing, walking in nature, writing, singing… or simply using a timer to remind you to slow down or breath consciously during your day-to-day.
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The 3rd step is Being a Performer rather than a spectator
Self-mastery means always taking an active approach in life. When a situation obviously calls for a response, a self-mastered person takes the initiative and steps right in.
There's no room for passivity and sitting on the bench. Don't hesitate, just do it.
Follow through with what you know is right. Listen to your intuition, inner knowing, emotional wave, or ask yourself, "does it bring me joy?", then take action.
Also, practice reconnecting to your inner light /guide. Strengthen that unique connection, remove the fog of the Ego, stand in your center, and act from there only.
?The 4th step is to Make Peace With Your Past.
It means to let go, forgive, and rewrite your story to remove the emotional charges of past events that are dragging you down. And once you have done it once, stay vigilant and audit yourself regularly.
These 4 simple steps are truly transformative and will help you to release the limiting autopilot mind and the repeating patterns that make up your life experience. Don't waste another year of your precious life and begin now!
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2 年Thank you for articulating this framework for developing self-mastery, @cecile. I am pondering over the opportunity to start with step 4 - radical self-forgiveness and forgiveness of others. For short of making peace with it, our past may well get in the way of our first, second, and third steps... This is how I for unstuck...