How to start again after Divorce
Lucy Moseley
Solicitor - committed to helping clients deal with legal issues by giving them impartial and sound advice.
At BWTLAW we understand that divorce can be difficult. However, we want to help you with more than just the paperwork. We will listen to your problems sympathetically and advise you on the best course of action. But after all the paperwork has been signed and both parties have gone their separate ways, how do you ‘start again’?
With any loss, you will go through a period of change and recovery and knowing what to expect will help you through this adjustment period.
Talk about it ? If you need to talk to something then maybe turn to a professional. A professional will more than likely tell you to let yourself feel whatever it is that you need to feel, because in the long run it will help you recover. As well as talking to a professional it would benefit you to find your own resources such as books and online resources.
Coping skills ? Learning how to deal with the intense emotions is a life-long skill. You must focus on the positive and invest in self-care. At the start of the divorce process, your emotions will go into survival mode, but we need to learn to deal with our emotions in crisis and day to day.
Focus on children ? If you are divorcing parents then it is recommended that you focus on what is best for children. It will serve in everyone’s best interest that you embrace the role of a co-parenting and that all decisions put the children first.
Avoid hanging on ? If you try to desperately reconcile with your spouse but this won’t help you in the long run or let you come up with effective coping mechanisms. Likewise, with new relationships; you shouldn’t rush into anything too quickly because of fear of being alone and never finding love again. This too will get in the way of finding effective ways of coping.
There will be roadblocks ? You may experience extreme sadness, anxiety and chose to suffer alone rather than reaching out but stay hopeful. Eventually, you will get past these challenges and move on and begin to move forward and create healthy new relationships.
If you need more advice and unbiased support about divorce then contact me, Lucy, at BWTLAW.