How to Spot Liars

Step -1 It’s not easy.

First, let me expose the?‘Anatomy of a lie’

“The best lies contain an element of truth” - Neal Caffrey

• Lying is easy, REMEMBERING the lie is the challenge!

Naturally, people try to construct lies, which seem REALLY NATURAL to them, like a second nature.

• Habitual Liars!

With years of trickery, it comes smooth, the real art is to?improvise, you can anticipate only to a point,?presence of mind, is what gets you out of tricky situations.

Exposing seasoned liars is tough why?

1. Liars are always OVER-CAUTIOUS.
2. Liars are always too OBSERVANT.
3. Liars expect to get caught, they rely on a smooth tongue, to get out of shifty situations.

• Catching a lie doesn’t solve the problem, Why?

1. Habitual liars, are excellent at JUSTIFYING themselves, the endless barrage:

“I was just kidding,

I am so sorry,”

“I was not thinking straight”

“Ohh! Sorry, must have slipped my mind”

2. Liars use sympathy, guilt, anything they can to?deflect ,change the topic,

“But, I did it because of ……..,”

“You did ……, I was left with no choice....."

Suddenly it’s no longer about them, it’s about you, problem solved; they think mission accomplished. Wrong.

• Key points to remember:

1. Lying is not an act,?LIAR?is the person, a?personality!
2. Catching lies are easy, the real task is to?PROVE INTENT!?(intention)
3. The solution is simple?BE RUTHLESS?with liars.
4. Show no mercy, they look innocent they are not.
5. Make them?UNDERESTIMATE?you. (They won’t see you coming)
6. Act cool, make them feel comfortable.
7. Liars are vulnerable when they think they are in control.
8. Ask, unpredictable, unsuspecting but specific questions.
9. Chart out the?SERIES?of instances, of lying.
10. BE PERSISTENT!
11. Don’t let them talk, you cannot?OUT TALK?them. They talk for a living.
12. Don’t follow rules, because they sure don’t, be brutal with liars.

• Understanding LIARS:

It may come effortlessly for them with years of practice, but don’t forget;

“THEY KNOW they are WRONG!”

By proving it what are you gonna achieve?

“The most dangerous lies are the ones we tell ourselves”

- Collins Truth