How Is Silliness Creating Magic?

Children have one kind of silliness, as you know, and grown-ups have another kind ~ C. S. Lewis

I owe the guy a lot of respect, but I need to argue and add “until we re-write the program!”. Does this mean we can behave like free kids again? Oh yes, and this only one of the multiple outcomes and acquired virtues!

The gym locker room

I enter the gym locker room with a friend after two of my favorite cardio classes. My endorphins are at their highest levels. I am hovering and excited, talking, and laughing nonstop!

My girlfriend goes to take her shower. So what? I have many other friends in the room! I am in the same place for 25 min. People who arrived after me are ready to leave. I am still in my sweating clothes. I pause, look at myself before adding “Goodness; can’t believe how slow I am!”.

The room is crowded. There are many girls I’ve never seen before. Their facial expressions are showing their confusion. I notice it and laugh internally before adding: “Well, we’re here partially to maintain our muscles. My tongue is also a muscle; isn’t it?” with a mischievous smile drawn on my face. I hear many beautiful giggles! For the shyest of them, I can see a smile from the eyes!

The dancing class technical issue video

“You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm” ~ Colette

It is our Sh’bam dancing class Halloween’s party. There is a technical problem. The music keeps shutting down. The dancing keeps being interrupted. People are becoming bothered and impatient. I am on stage with a few regulars. No panic! Let’s entertain this audience, shall we?

I am not on the stage anymore. I am drinking some water when somebody hugs me from behind. I turn to see a girl I don’t know. She says “Can you please make sure not to miss the class again? It is not the same without you!”.

I am beyond humbled. The feeling is simply priceless. She is a good friend today.

The HRD Congress in India

“Silliness makes your soul smile” ~ Doe Zantamata

Sure, but there is a bonus to which we’ll come back later! I was invited to India to give a talk. It was 3-day-event. Each day, there were five speeches every 30 minutes.

I was late for the first ceremony. I had such an exhausting 22-hour-trip. I didn’t sleep the whole night and needed to take some rest. I had to deliver my speech the following day. I met the coordinator. We had a quick chat, and I headed for the buffet. I was starving!

There was a guy. He approached me, pushed my button, and I started talking and talking… and talking ??. The guy was listening and only interrupted me for a second to say: “You need to know that I’m the talker in general, that I can rarely listen to someone for more than a minute”. That was moving!

Many were observing the scene and joined our table. The joiners asked me for my business card, to which I answered:

I don’t have any, and this is intentional. I am my card. If I succeed in building a rapport, you will not need it to remember me.

I’ll need pages to write about the whole fabulous stay. But I can give you this hint: I ate all my meals cold. The sentence I heard the most was “Please eat; I’m sorry I triggered your passion in any way!”

During the last ceremony party, my guy took this video. Nobody asked him to do it. I never remember to take pictures. My mother is always frustrated because of it.

The following guy was sitting next to me. I was moved to my core by his following testimonial:

Moral of the stories: We can act absolutely as a 5-year-old while our biological age is 50. Is that a learned skill? No. It is the result of the reconnection with our inner child through seriously committing to the transformational adventure.

Why are people who are laughing at a self-deprecating joke having smiling eyes? Because this kind of humor nurtures their souls. On the other hand, it is the unhealthy ego that is being taken care of when listening to toxic humor — downgrading a person or a whole community. That’s why the eyes are mean.

What does being a silly person trigger for people around you?

Making them pause and not take themselves too seriously when facing hardship (the technical issue story). Permitting them to start liberating themselves, and the hope that, maybe — just maybe, it could be their turn one day to be free:

Free from the adulthood biased concept; free from the stigmas; free from the limiting beliefs; free from the draining rules; free from their unhealthy ego’s grip.

Why am I so in love with being publicly silly? Because nothing is making me fulfilled as much as being in service and empowering others in any possible way. I hope you will all be able to experience this freedom sensation one day. Fingers crossed!

With love, Myriam