How to Silence your Inner Critic

Have you asked yourself from time to time why your life has not unfolded the way you have envisioned!  What holds you back from getting things accomplished and being successful?   The answer lies with past events in childhood through the teen years which is the Cause that leads to Effects that most people live in that keep them trapped in self-doubt that leads to procrastination.   Your habits and behaviors unconsciously in adulthood are tied back to trigger events that have molded you into a pattern of self-doubt or success.  It is your inner critic that has a choice of tapping into the positive or negative that dictates your habits and behaviors that either server you or not long term.  

For example, you see a man who has never been able to live up to his full potential with his career.  He may have had a father that was overbearing and always on him to improve his performance or skills.  He may have also felt neglected as his father was never there for important events or did not acknowledge him for his successes growing up.   These are trigger events that develop the Cause that leads to the Effects that in adulthood will mold habits and behaviors that may be detrimental to his success due to self-doubt.   Living in the effect will not change his current situation operating from self-doubt.   The inner critic defaults to the negative and feeds of the Cause unconsciously that creates habits and behaviors that do not serve him.    He has lived his entire life not being his authentic-self always looking to be someone else his dad or what other authoritative figures wanted him to be in life.  

Can someone that is stuck in life change and move toward success operating from a place of peace without anxiety?   The answer is YES but only when you start with addressing the Cause(s) not the Effects in your life.    Your life is an evolving story and change when you choose to change for the better.   Your life is not confined by past events that negatively affected you as they can used to only strengthen to what you can become in a positive way.   The start to eliminate self-doubt begins with addressing the Causes.   Go back and write down what they are even you perceive them not to really bother you.  Often, people do not realize that certain events that happened long ago have affected their lives and play out every day in what they do that does not serve them.   Confront the Cause by looking at yourself in the mirror.   Accept responsibility and appreciate this negative experience if you created it.   Acknowledge the cause if you did not create it but were of victim of this circumstance.   Forgive the person(s) that hurt you.    You do not have to forget but just forgive.  Let is go either way as the story of your life is always evolving and is not defined by just these Causes from trigger events.   This can be scary for many people but the only way to release the Cause that creates the Effects that no longer serve you.  You can also do with a therapists, coach, or trusted friend.   Use them to build your strength in a positive way and continue to develop a story that operates from a place of joy, happiness, and peace rather than negative emotions such as anger, shame, and guilt. 

When you release the Cause(s) and truly let go it will unlock the feeling of true peace and joy.  You will know your life is about choices and when you come from your authentic self your story will only lead you to success over time.  Coming from joy and peace your decisions to act promptly rather than procrastinate will be easier and the fear of failure less.    You will have more confidence in your abilities coming from authentic-self and know the universe will play it part if you play yours with 100% commitment and action.   You will know fear is just fear itself not tied to actual objective or goal you have planned.  Know success is a journey not a destination and the only true failure in life are not to start, confront, or follow through to something you fear.          

7 Steps to Eliminate, Reduce, or Minimize Self Doubt

1. Address and confront the Cause(s) that lead to the Effects that create self-doubt and to truly let them go through forgiveness.
2. Make the conscious choice to change toward success by looking at it as a journey and growth process not a destination.
3. Incorporate a daily schedule of meditation, personal development, clean eating, and exercise to create balance and overall well-being. Important life decisions are best made when grounded and coming from a sense of peace, joy, happiness, and feeling of confidence.  Always be grateful.
4. Come out of your comfort zone early and be willing to be consistent but never strive for perfection when it comes to adopting new habits that best serve you toward the journey of success. Never become complacent as greatest growth comes from outside your comfort zone.
5. Write down short term and long term goals and set up for attainable goals over time. Reward yourself in a positive way for each goal met along the way. 
6. Recognize your fear and know it is fear itself and never label it as a feeling of nervousness or anxiety.
7. Always know failure is only when you do not start or follow through. If something does not work during this journey always look at it as a learning experience and part of the process to something better.   The universe will test you and when you make the choice to really go for it through belief and action then the universe will untimely do its part.  

We are all worthy of success.  It is a choice and process that comes from an internal place of peace and joy inside of you.   The choice to listen to your inner critic will be either positive or negative.   You will find success when you truly let go of the Cause(s) that create the negative effects that hold you back.   Adopt healthier habits over time through the steps depicted above and you will find a sense of more energy and greater motivation to follow through toward a better life.  The choice again starts with you and only you.   

To your Health & Prosperity,

Christopher R. Salem