HOW IS SELF-SABOTAGE KILLING YOUR VIBE?

What's your favorite flavor of?self-sabotage, my friend?

Tough question, I know.

I can't even tell you my favorite flavor of ice-cream off the top of my head –

and that's most certainly a topic I have given a lot of thought to recently!

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Just kidding, of course.

I know exactly how I self-sabotage.

In the past, my favorite flavor of self-sabotage was partying, with a fair share of overdrinking.

These days, it's a lot of "I am not good with details" and "I just can't see things through to the end" –?

two true-enough statements if I let them derail me instead of drawing on my team and the work guardrails I have established for exactly those situations.

It still happens from time to time.

But these days I am a little faster to get what it means if I let the self-sabotage run its course:

It means holding back

• from showing up as my best self?
• from going big (and loud and bold!)?
• from building the business I want
• from supporting more people in their challenges
• from... do I need to go on?

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When the realization kicks in, there's no way to?un-think it.?

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You can ignore the knowledge that you are self-sabotaging for a while longer,

but chances are, it'll catch up with you eventually.?

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So if you want to save yourself some time,

I recommend you go straight for the big question:

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What have I wanted in my life for a long time –

and how am I keeping myself from getting it?

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You may want to argue with me now and blame the circumstances.?

I get it.

But I tell you, there's?someone?out there who has had similar circumstances and they may have actually helped them thrive.?

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This is?NOT?to say you did anything wrong.?

It is to say that it's never down to the circumstances.?

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If you have wanted to advance your career, save money, speak at a conference, lose weight, build a meaningful relationship for a long time –?

and again and again things start out well and “suddenly” flip,?

changes are you are self-sabotaging.?

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Weird as it is, our brains like even our most uncomfortable comfort zone better than the unknown.

To keep us there, they tend to make us freak out if we get any close to actually achieving your desire – getting the promotion, saving the money, doing the speaking gig, losing the weight, having a family with an amazing partner, you name it.?

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It feels too good to be true, and here we go: self-sabotaging.

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I'd love to know:?

What's?your?favorite flavor of self-sabotage??

Because awareness is the first step toward overcoming self-sabotage.

There's enough BS out there we have to deal with, so let's our mind not join the dark forces!

And if you want to work on self-sabotage and other issues standing in the way of your best life,?

I want you to know that I will be accepting a small number of new clients over the summer.

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If you are curious to find out more,?message?and I'll get back to you.?

Or get straight on my?calendar.

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Love,?Micha