How to Resolve any Conflict
Managing or resolving conflict is challenging.
After all, they rarely teach us these skills in school.
And we are social beings, having evolved in the safety of tribes. Where, for hundreds of thousands of years, being expelled from 'our tribe' meant certain death.
It's no wonder many of us would prefer to avoid dealing with conflict and instead bury our heads in our "work".
But if we are part of an organisation, community or family, that's probably not going to be ideal either.
And if we are a leader (or aspire to be one), resolving conflict constructively is a must.
So what can we do?
Well as it turns out, there are a few small things that make a big difference.
Resolving Conflict
Start with yourself.
If you really want to resolve a conflict you are a party to, you need to start with you.
Not the other person.
Concretely, ask yourself these 3 questions:
Okay, so to progress, I'm going to assume (1) you have let go of your need to be right (or suspended judgement for now) and (2) you understand at least some of their perspective (or are willing to explore understanding their perspective).
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True conflict resolution isn't about who is 'right'...
It's about how can two parties with differing perspectives explore outcomes that meet both/all parties interests - or at the minimum, outcomes that all parties can live with that allow them to move on.
Resolving conflict through conversations
The paradox of influencing and resolving conflict is... we do it best when we focus on the other party's perspective and interests.
As a result there are 2 key principles when it comes to talking through conflict:
That's it.
All the rest of the conversation is largely noise (until of course you get to agreeing steps to move forward).
Other options
In summary
there are many ways to help yourself resolve conflict. Most importantly:
I'd love to hear what your experience is like with conflict and resolving it. Feel free to comment below or send me a private message.
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2 年Great article.. tells it like it is with options!! ??