How to Reduce your Tendency of Rejection

Dear reader,?

I recently listened to a podcast that spoke about having a high tolerance for rejection. As I listened the speaker made one thing clear; Everyone has been rejected at some point! As gut-wrenching as it may sound, no one goes through life without rejection.?

From parents telling their little ones, "No!" to school applications being denied, innovative ideas not gaining investor support, or the most common form for this app's users—job application rejections—everyone has gotten a "No" at some point.

It is then safe to say that rejection in one form or another, is part of the human experience.?

But, how do we build a high tolerance for rejection and reduce our likelihood of being rejected?!

First, understand and accept that rejection is a normal human experience.?

Does it suck? Absolutely. But you are not alone. There is likely nothing uncommon about the rejection you are currently facing.

Now that we've agreed on that point, here's how to avoid being rejected: ????

Build relationships!?

People reject people, which means people also accept people.

Learning the fine art of building relationships is therefore crucial. It starts with a smile, grows with genuine interest, and gets stronger by finding common ground.

While it sounds simple, building meaningful relationships requires significant effort and commitment. You need to believe in the value of the relationship and stay dedicated to the work involved.?

Here are some practical steps to start with:?

1. Identify the people you want to connect with - This includes knowing their names, but beyond that, tell yourself the truth about why you want to connect with them. Ask questions like; What do I have in common with this person? What inspires me about them? Where are they currently on their journey? What do they need? What interests them??
2. Reach out to them - If they are online, send connect request or a follow request, but don't stop there! Clicking the connect or follow button might not be enough. Engage with their content if they post online; Like, share, comment, etc. Be reasonably visible. PS: emphasis on reasonably… lol?
3. Create a check-in schedule - When building a relationship, it is important to keep in touch. You can start by sending a birthday message or Christmas message. But basically, let them know you care.
4. Show up for them - Attend professional events where they are at, sign up for their speaking engagements, offer to help with a task, etc.
5. Celebrate their achievements - Buy a gift or send a congratulatory message to acknowledge their milestones.

As straightforward as some of these actions may appear, they require work and consistency! But think of it as an investment—not just for your benefit, but for the benefit of others as well.

Once you master these steps, not only will your rejection rate drop drastically, but you'll also find that opportunities come your way without you seeking them out.

That’ll be all for this week, let me know what you found most helpful and the aspect you would be implementing today.?

Enjoy the weekend! See you in June ??

Your buddy,?

‘Fisayomeee ??