How to Rebuild Your Self-Confidence after a Failure

What can we do if we disappointed ourselves? How can we build our confidence again when we failed in our own opinion?

In life, we live many situations where things turn out completely differently than expected. We might get upset, disappointed or even depressed because of people turning us down, a promotion missed, a business deal not won. Disappointment and failure can shake the core of our existence, can unsettle the foundation on which we built our personal and professional life.

These moments of deep disappointment or feeling a failure can rise up after a our husband or spouse asks for divorce, after a failed business adventure, after a missed promotion. We can feel rejected and easily fall into a negative spiral of self-doubt, self-blame and self-destruction.

How can we get out of the negative spiral?

First of all, we have to become aware that some events might seem a failure in the moment but can eventually turn into a blessing. Let's say you missed a promotion and you feel rejected. Maybe this can be the catalyst for you to change jobs or to sharpen your skills, to build inner strength. So, in hindsight, the fact that you missed the promotion might be the best thing that ever happened in your life.

Secondly, we have to become aware that our mind colors everything, that our mind labels every experience, that our way of thinking is conditioned by our upbringing, our culture, our past, ... Once we can clearly see that, witness that, we get less and less troubled by our own mind.

We free ourselves, we are not longer attached to our own ideas, don't get hurt easily anymore by the words or judgments of others, and all we can feel is enormous compassion not only for our own human condition but also for the struggles, the pain and the ignorance of others.

And there lies the key, in being detached and cultivating an attitude of compassion for ourselves and others. Knowing that success and failure are relative and related. They are the tides of life and that we can learn from both, as long as our compassionate attitude grows...

What is failure anyway? Failure is having a different outcome than you wanted. It’s a label you put on an experience.

Most people fear failure because mostly they fear the judgements of other people. As long as other people’s judgements control the direction of your life, you are in a powerless position.

Never let the fear of what others might say, hold you back from shining your light.

Your biggest strength in life will always come in getting back up after a challenge and there is no challenge that you cannot overcome. You have everything within you to succeed in life.

Remember, life is a series of experiences to let your soul grow through those experiences.

What do confident and fulfilled people have in common?

They feel good in their own skin, they have accepted themselves completely with their gifts and their flaws. They do NOT let depend their sense of self-worth on what other people say.

That makes them powerful since they do not give the power over their sense of wellbeing, sense of self-worth be determined by others.They do not allow the negative voices of others, the negative voice in their head pull themselves down.

So never let some bad choices, failures or mistakes determine your life. Learn from it and move on.

That self-confidence comes from within, from a deep realization that you are enough, you are worthy, you are complete. And when it comes from within, it can not be taken away from you.

Never let bad results in school, a mistake in your work, a business failure control you, don't stay stuck there. Life is a precious gift to be experienced, mistakes and failure are part of that. Don't compare your journey with others, we are all unique and born to blossom in our unique way.

Wishing you an amazing day where you realize that it is within your power to free yourself from thoughts and feelings of failure, that you are not alone and that everything that seems dark right now, can be the moment just before a new dawn in your life!

Much love, Barbara.

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