How To Process Sadness Quickly

Most of my sessions start with me noticing my clients have backed-up (blocked) emotions. Clearing those emotions is the first order of business.

We have to unlock your vitality before we can get you back in The Zone and feeling like yourself again. Blocked Emotions make you feel like a ZOMBIE.

Emotional constipation can completely shut down your joy in life and relationships.

We all know that Mental Wellness is a hot topic, THANK GOODNESS and it's about time! I've never understood how emotions have been dismissed and belittled among the intelligent and successful. Experiencing emotion is the very foundation of our human experience.

Until now we've not been taught the tools on how to work with emotions. I'm here to help with your learning. I attended over 8 years of body-mind and genius coaching with the work of psychologist Dr. Gay Hendricks (Author of The Big Leap) and have continued my work for the last 15 years in practice with clients and myself.

I was processing sadness today and I decided to show you how I did it, and it showed up in the form of creative writing. I trust that this will help someone. Please private message me if it did, and full speed ahead in feeling your feelings in a friendly way through the holidays and beyond.

With kindness and an open heart, Auretha

In Attendance of Sadness

I know NO ONE who admits to enjoying their sadness.

(Experiencing extreme sadness will usually be sensed in the chest, the throat, and the eyes.)?

My sadness today consists of many small things like a pile of leaves, but nothing that I recognize.?

(Maybe a few old hauntings of a story of how I am not enough of this or that…)

Or feeling the sadness of a loved one or the world’s trials. and suddenly it’s all in my chest like it belongs to me.

It is like an old friend that has shown up for tea, waiting for my attention.

Just sitting there, like a brick on my chest.

I feel irritated. I am not in the mood for this. I have many other things to do.

We would so eagerly want to ignore this friend in our living room.

This friend beckons us to attend to that which we feel deeply and to release and to sigh, and to cry.

I turn to the tools I was taught years ago.

“I commit to feeling my sadness in a friendly way.”

I sigh loudly.?

That feels better.

I breathe out loudly.

Better still.

I groan.

I notice the heavy sadness in my eyes.

I focus on that energy within them, noticing it and waiting.?

Attending to that which I am feeling.

NOT trying to figure out where the sadness came from, (like “How did the air get in this room?”)

Letting the heavy energy leave my lungs with every sigh,?

Lifting higher off my heart.

Staying at the bedside of my sadness, holding her hand. Waiting, attending. Being there.

After a few minutes, I start to feel lighter.?

I don’t try to think,?

I feel, I breathe, and I let go.

Even if it was mine, I don’t have to keep it. I don’t have to store it. And I don’t have to figure out why it’s here.

Before you know it, this friend is at the door.?

“Time to go,” she says.

With every breath of release, she walks away a few more steps.

She just wanted me to see her, to hear her, to acknowledge that she was real.

As she walks away it’s easier to breathe.

I begin to focus on other things.?

But still I attend to the feelings within my body, as they are as needed as any friend.?

As I give them my attention, they will heal and release and walk away when they’ve had enough of my time and attention.

Safe Journey, Sadness, as I’m sure I’ll see you again.