This week's Digest focuses on embracing radical acceptance for a healthier mindset.
- Food for Thought I'm a big believer in the "no complaints diet". This isn't some form of toxic positivity but a recognition that complaining achieves nothing and undermines our wellbeing. As I see it, there are three constructive ways to deal with circumstances we don't like: (1) Do something to change them, (2) Walk away from them, (3) Accept them. If we can change something for the better, then this is usually our best course of action. If not, and the cost of walking away from it is negligible (or positive), then that's a valid alternative. But when the first two options aren't available, then the only rational response is to accept things, no matter how imperfect they may be. Otherwise, we'll get trapped in negative emotions, thoughts, and actions.
- Inspiring Quote "The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance." — Nathaniel Branden
- Free Science-based Tool Practicing Acceptance with Ice Cubes. Our struggle to accept things is often linked to our discomfort with not being in control. This fun, novel exercise trains people to accept discomfort and release negative thoughts without acting on them. Note: it's probably best to get clients to try it at home rather than in the therapy room! [Link]
- Book Recommendation Radical Acceptance — Tara Brach. Drawing on Buddhist teachings, this book explores how self-judgment and the fear that we are not good enough undermine our wellbeing, fuel negative behavior, and leave us feeling unfulfilled. Thankfully, it also shows how to address these tendencies and serves as a practical guide for self-healing, clarity, and compassion. [Link]
- A Question For Your Clients "When you criticize yourself, what words or phrases tend to come up?". Language and thoughts are closely linked. By asking people to examine (and change) the words they use when being self-critical, you can help them reframe their thoughts and cultivate greater self-compassion and acceptance.
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Thanks for reading. I'm curious, what is one act of acceptance that has brought you peace?
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