How Not To Be A Pessimist
Dato Ir Abdul Aziz Abdullah
Entrepreneur, Trainer, Professional Coach, NLP Practitioner, Real Estate Negotiator
The first step toward optimism is to overcome pessimism. There is a reason for your pessimism, and the most likely explanation is that you are being pessimistic in order to conceal some insecurities. Optimism and positive thinking are the polar opposites of pessimism, and as such, you must do everything possible to overcome your pessimistic tendencies.
Confront Irrational Fear
We all have?irrational fears, but pessimists appear to have a greater number than the average. If you want to be an optimist, it is critical that you confront your irrational fears. The most effective way to accomplish this is to confront them directly.
You will have reinforced your irrational fears over time by acting on them, making them difficult to overcome. However, by confronting and overcoming your irrational fears, you will give your self-confidence a much-needed boost.
Transition from Rigid to Flexible Thinking
The majority of pessimists are dogmatic in their thinking. They believe that either they can do something or they cannot, and that there are no other options. Pessimists frequently focus on these “impossibilities,” which limits them.
With a flexible mindset, you will always believe that another way exists. If you are unable to do something right now, persistence and time will change this. Flexible thinking enables you to consider alternate possibilities.
Refuse to be manipulated by others
Concern for what other people think of them is a characteristic shared by pessimists. They are fearful of taking risks in case someone objects to what they are doing. An optimist accepts responsibility for their own actions and is unconcerned about what others think.
If you are experiencing this issue, you must alter your thinking in this area. The majority of people are far too preoccupied to care about what you’re doing. When someone expresses an opinion, you are not obligated to accept it as factual. Generally, it will not be true.
Reduce your Negative Exposure
Pessimists thrive on adversity. If you want to become an optimist, you must minimise your exposure to negativity. This includes negative people and events. While it will be impossible for you to completely avoid negativity, minimising it as much as possible should be your goal.
Reduce your time spent on social media; it is a haven for negativity. It makes no difference if you are not constantly connected. Missing a few innocuous notifications will not be an issue.
Extend Your Gratitude
Pessimists frequently dwell on the things they lack in their lives. They are constantly on the lookout for something new and will not be satisfied until they obtain it. Optimists are appreciative of what they have and understand that expressing gratitude results in additional abundance.
Consider your surroundings and express your gratitude for the people and things that are currently in your life. While you are concentrating on this, you will not be concerned about your future or past mistakes.