How to be at peace without coping

Yep, did you know you may be addicted to the state of anxiety itself but advertise to the world you want to get rid of it

There’s this unquestioned idea that one is at the whims of one’s mind and body, and that anxiety is something to get rid of

What I’ve observed is that among the top reasons why people are stuck in anxiety is simply because they are secretly addicted to it

That’s it. Because they’ve lived their whole life in fear.

Because they don’t know how would life would look life without struggle.

Because genuine happiness and confidence won’t get their needs met.

Because letting guard down is dangerous can’t trust people and face value of things

Whatever the explanation doesn’t matter. We could spend the whole season psycho-analysing our way

Point is this. One can start letting go of this secret pleasure right now

With observation, you can catch yourself hanging on to a body or mental response for its own sake

As if latching on to it, perpetuating it, commenting it, fighting it actually did something and magically got one to that promised land called peace

Thus, a feeling becomes now chronic and repetitive

Another example might be being upset that someone hurt your feelings and now spending the next 3 months ruminating about it,

making sure to squeeze pleasure out of your own pity, replaying the story, telling it to the world, making sure you replay it one more time, be the innocent victim, etc.

..and of course why not deny the whole thing

One needs to be willing to let go of these games of suffering

The “addiction to the state” is more than a real thing; it is the very foundation of human suffering in all its forms

But please don’t let it go right now. It must be more difficult right?

Suffering and struggling promise a more interesting reward, that of hanging on to things for its own sake

I think you’re right, there’s always time to live in peace and serenity, but that’s more for people who are ready to let go of this secret pleasure and hanging on to things, perhaps it’s not the right time for you