How to Be Okay Being Alone
Clifford Jones
Six-time author, brand-builder, and strategic small business guide. Founder of BrandEquityPlaybook.com, empowering brand-conscious creators and business owners.
Discover the Art of Self-Awareness According to a Leading Psychologist
It’s 4:40 a.m. on a Summer weekday in Scottsdale, Arizona. I’m ten minutes into a two-and-a-half-hour bicycle ride.
I’m alone, soft-pedaling into the sunrise, and feel like the world's richest man. But the truth is, it’s taken me a lifetime to know who I am.
And in that way, I am okay when I am alone.
To be okay with being alone, we must learn to be okay with who we are.
To do that, we must somehow figure out who we are instead of who we’ve become to please others, including our family, culture, community, and employer.
In other words, we have to know our true, authentic selves.
"Many people suffer from the fear of finding oneself alone, and so they don't find themselves at all." - Rollo May
Knowing who you are makes it much easier to know who you’re not.
Rollo May was a pioneering American existential psychologist known for his profound insights into the human condition, freedom, and anxiety. He was born on April 21, 1909, and died on October 22, 1994.
In "Man's Search for Himself," May explores the deep loneliness, boredom, and anxiety people experience in modern society. The book was first published in 1953.
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May argues that true freedom comes from self-awareness and the courage to face our inner fears and anxieties.
May highlights the importance of living authentically and finding personal meaning amidst societal pressures. He emphasizes that personal growth and creativity require solitude and the willingness to confront one’s deepest fears.
According to May, cultivating inner strength and integrity is crucial for personal well-being and positively influencing those around us.
Here are six powerful key takeaways to help you start feeling okay today:
Rollo May's insights remind us that the fear of being alone often prevents us from discovering our true selves. By embracing solitude, we learn to distinguish between who we are and who external influences have conditioned us to be.
In "Man's Search for Himself," we learn that true freedom comes from understanding our inner selves and facing our fears head-on.
Embracing solitude and inner strength not only aids in our journey but also allows us to impact those around us positively. Despite societal pressures, living authentically leads to a more profound sense of fulfillment and integrity.
As you pedal into your day, carry these lessons with you, striving to live a life of authenticity and courage.
To know yourself is to love yourself for who you are.
And in truth, we are never alone.
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