How my 30-year-old body is coping with this 8-month pregnant me!
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I just took a warm ?? bath as I lay in my eve-like state while it’s 8:32 pm my time.
Please don’t blame me- life is hitting me hard, and while I love everything that has come my way, I am very-very- stressed ??.
This is my scholarly rant today, so make sense of this with me.
I am in my 30s, 31 in 3 months.
But I became pregnant ?? 8 months ago.
Maybe I was pregnant long before I knew it was there.
My first fear was how this 30+ body would cope.
The first time I felt irritated by this idea of being pregnant was during college while learning Latin. At that same time, I may have heard about the Latin phrase “in personam jurisdicum” but never paid attention to it then.
Now I am here, dealing with the same old body that feels stuck with this pregnancy, yet battling the Latin concept even while dreaming of Law school and making some damn change in the world!
My bones are aching, and I feel very nauseated, but I can’t get rid of this pregnancy.
The court systems perpetuate domestic violence because of a silly Latin phrase called “in personam jurisdicum.”
This phrase in legal parlance means that when victims or survivors of domestic violence can’t prove that they live in the same physical space as their abusers, the courts can’t issue protection orders.
Now, this is what makes the pregnant me sick ?? every morning: What sense or logic exists in this clause to protection orders?
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What defines jurisdiction in domestic violence cases?
What is “physical space”?
What is “space”?
I thought I was the only one forgetting things because of the pregnant me. Still, the court systems seem to forget that the spaces or jurisdictions where abusers perpetuate violence now include social media and other digital platforms.
How does the same Latin language that kept me awake in college is the reason I am pregnant with such a big idea, a significant scholarly endeavor:
How in personam jurisdicum perpetuates courts systems retraumatization of domestic violence survivors and victims.
This is my 8-month-old pregnancy!
In the last eight months, I have learned more and read more about this social menace.
It’s an exciting but challenging pathway ;
And when I think that this is the reason I have submitted more speaking engagement application papers to human rights organizations, made calls to agencies, and built an incredible portfolio for law school.
I know this pregnancy worries my 30-year-old body, but she’s still here breathing.????
What idea ?? keeps you awake or makes you feel pregnant ???
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