How much pain is enough?

Pain is opportunity's knock and it's too often ignored.

Ignore pain and you leave a lot on the table. Follow along in this issue of GenX Weekly and consider pain in a whole new light. As a result, you will increase the probability of a whole new level of life that, up to now, you haven't even been able to imagine.

Now, let's dive in.

Sticky Quo:

Pain is tolerable because of Sticky Quo.

We know the phrase, Status Quo. It's defined as "unaltered condition," 1833, from Latin status quo "the state in which," hence "existing state of affairs." Also status quo ante "the state in which before, state of affairs previous" (1877). [1]

What we don't understand is how sticky it can be.

Sticky Quo is when a CEO wants like crazy to fire an employee who is not a good fit for the company culture yet is producing wild sales numbers. The sales numbers are producing great profit (but at the expense of the well-being of the rest of the employees on the team).

The pain isn't quite enough to do the firing - unless the other employees begin to leave and work for a competitor.

How much pain is enough for you to break out of your "sticky quo"?

Self-Sabotage:

Pain is tolerable because of Self-Sabotage.

"There is nothing holding you back in life more than yourself.?If there is an ongoing gap between where you are and where you?want to be—and your efforts to close it are consistently met with?your own resistance, pain, and discomfort—self-sabotage is almost always at work."

We harbor a unconscious needs that are being fulfilled by the self-sabotaging behavior.

"...self-sabotage is very often just a maladaptive coping?mechanism, a way we give ourselves what we need without having to actually address what that need is. But like any coping?mechanism, it is just that — a way to cope. It’s not an answer,?it’s not a solution, and it does not ever truly solve the problem.?We are merely numbing our desires, and giving ourselves a little?taste of temporary relief" [2]

How much pain is enough for you to break out of your self-sabotage?

Suspending Action:

Pain is tolerable because it's easier to "prepare" for a change than to change.

Ever heard of Rocking Chair Syndrome?

You have a glimmer of the pain and how life might be like if you addressed it. You can't wait to start doing something about the pain right away.

But you think to yourself, "I need to prepare myself. I need to read about this pain, study how others have dealt with the same pain, make a plan to eliminate the pain, and develop some skills I'll need to beat the pain.

"And you start buying motivational literature, listening to webinars, planning. But at the same time, you are not getting any closer to the goal. We understand why this is happening and what to do about it.

"Surrounded by books, podcasts, webinars and tips, at first glance you are taking some steps, but in fact you are just rocking back and forth, as if you are sitting in a rocking chair. Sometimes this condition is also called “retraining”." [3]

How much pain is enough for you to get out of your rocking chair?

Why this issue?

As a GenXer, you are headed for the end of your 3rd quarter of life and about to begin your 4th and final quarter. The last 20 years of your life will be the most exciting days ever (unless of course, you're comfortable with your pain).

Subscriber, I want for you to thrive. The first step is opening the door when pain is knocking.

Thanks for reading this issue. I wish you all the best!

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[1] status quo | Etymology, origin and meaning of phrase status quo by etymonline

[2] The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery: Wiest, Brianna: 9781949759228: Amazon.com : Books

[3] Rocking Chair Syndrome: How To Stop Preparing and Start Acting | by Artur Kh. | Medium