How much do you really wish to understand the raison d'etre of the "other" in your lives?
"Listening only gets us so far though. The second trait is to make ourselves more vulnerable. Removing our masks and postures so we can actually feel what it is like to be in someone else's shoes."--Andrew Weiler
Each and every one of us comprises a humanity in its own unique stead. How others become involved with that dynamic singular viable sentient entity may be considered the latter's conceptual image. A fortiori how the entity actively reflects on him-or herself is the capstone of this entity's existence.