How to Manifest Your Wildest Dreams

“The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.”?— Tony Robbins

We all have a story that provides us with plenty of excuses of why we’re not where we want to be. This story comes up anytime we feel that dull ache to do more. It squashes our ambition and encourages us to settle for the status quo.

It’s easy to tell a story of why we can’t do or have what we want.

It’s harder to make changes to our lives.

Here’s why we need to rewrite our life stories. This time, with the chapters exactly how we want them.

Our story is usually a fable filled with a long list of excuses—an avalanche of reasons to justify our ego’s position.

List them all, every last one.

Awareness is the key to erasing our doubts and fears.

Examine them.

Question them as an inquirer would. Are these excuses enough to hold you back or is there something else lingering behind them?

Chances are the excuses are hiding deeper fears, and doubts about chasing your dreams.

You owe it yourself to uncover the truth of who you are and everything you want to be.

How Excuses Keep Us Stuck

I know excuses well. In fact, I’ve used them most of my life.

As an overwhelmed, exhausted mother of a toddler and newborn only a few short years ago, I had every excuse in the book and you better believe I used it.

I’m too overwhelmed, I’m too tired, I don’t have any time.

These were everyday excuses for me.

Yes, this was all true. It was a reflection of the season of life I was in, but the hard part was interrupting that thought pattern when things finally started getting easier.

The truth is we could all have excuses at any time no matter how great life is.

Even when I had all of the time in the world in my twenties, I had excuses, lots of them.

They kept me stuck, and I used them to not make any progress towards my dreams.

I squashed the dull ache, burying my need to write and my need to create.

“Every day thousands of people bury good ideas because they are afraid to act on them. And afterwards, the ghosts of these ideas come back to haunt them.” — David J. Schwartz

Eventually, the ache became a throb and I couldn’t ignore it anymore. It haunted and tormented me with what if’s.

What if I got to the end of my life, never chasing my most precious dream?

What if there was a chance, even a small remote one I could achieve my dreams?

How could I tell my girls to chase their dreams when I was too afraid to follow my own?

That was it.

Thinking of my two little girls and everything I wanted to instill in them. That reason was what I had been waiting for.

I could let go of everything for myself, but I couldn’t let them down.

I desperately wanted to be an example of following your heart.

So I did.

I made the shift, but it wasn’t easy.

The stories were still rampant in mind.

The Trap of Comparison and Envy

Envy was a big chapter.

It seemed everyone else had more support than me.

More help with childcare.

More energy and time.

Youth on their side and the magic touch to make things happen overnight.

I was bombarded with images and ads of everyone who has “made it”.

Most people glossed over hardships but a few gave me hope. That the journey of success isn’t paved overnight with instant recognition.

It’s slow, sometimes painful but always possible.

The only difference between successful people and those that never make it is this.

Successful people thrive in spite of their limitations.

In fact, education, background and support don’t always equal success.

“Without effort, your talent is nothing more than unmet potential. Without effort, your skill is nothing more than what you could have done but didn’t.”

― Angela Duckworth

Grit does.

To do what needs to be done without complaining.

So how do we drop the excuses and develop grit?

Start by defining your why.

Why the heck do you want to do what you’re doing?

List these reasons. Print them out. Post them where you can see them.

Review this list when inevitably the excuses crop up.

Start rewriting the story bit by bit. Make one small change and then another.

When things get tough, and doubts start creeping in along with my old stories, I look at my list. I think of the women I want to empower, the words I want to use to inspire others and the role model I want to be for my daughters.

That is the story I want to tell.

Fall in Love With the Process

“Fall in love with the process, and the results will come.”?— Eric Thomas

I read all about enjoying the process, falling in love with it but chalked that advice up to something that would never work for me.

My goals were too big, I wanted them to happen now. Waiting — forget it.

I was all about the destination.

Now, I’ve come to realize the journey is everything.

The small steps you take every day towards your goals will serve you more by helping you get where you want to be faster.

Enjoying the process also puts you in the right mindset to achieve and receive. If you love what you are creating, that love and passion shows and it helps you attract what you want.

Set Up Your Environment For Success

After getting clear on your why the next step is to put processes and systems in place to make it easier to make things happen.

Want to work out more? Layout your workout clothes next to your bed, so they’re ready to go in the morning.

Want to write every day? Schedule 30 minutes in your calendar to do just that.

Take thinking out of the equation and start doing.

Thinking results in excuses and stories.

Action creates real results.

Slowly, you’ll notice a shift.

Where you found excuses to stop, you’ll find reasons to keep going.

Where there are obstacles, you’ll search for solutions or try a different approach altogether.

Your story will start shifting.

It will no longer be about who you once were, but it will be about who you want to become.

My story transformed in one year, with this radical shift.

I’m now using my excuses as reasons to improve my life.

Sure, I’m still exhausted and overwhelmed at times, but instead of using those as reasons to stop, I now focus on what I can do to start feeling better.

I need energy and tons of it for everything I want to achieve. Eating well and exercising are no longer a luxury but a necessity to achieve the grandest visions for my life.

Envy is no longer on my radar. I can’t concern myself with what others are or aren’t doing. I rather be looking for solutions to make my life better.

I’m not wasting thoughts or energy on trivial things that don’t matter.

Instead of dwelling on what I don’t want, I’m focusing on everything that I do.

“You need to remember that your excuses are seducers, your fears are liars and your doubts are thieves.” — Robin Sharma

This year’s story is going to be much different.

I’m erasing all the excuses, limitations, fears and doubts that filled the last chapters.

My new story is all about hope, possibility, love, and manifesting a long-buried dream.

What will your story be?

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