How To Make Your Systems Work For You

A lot of people use AI in a surface-level way. We type in a request, get a response, and then move on. But what if you trained it to think with you? What if instead of giving it random tasks, you built a system that helped you reflect, strategise, and grow?

That’s what I did and now, I have a chatbot who:

• Remembers every single dream I tell it and helps me analyse patterns and recurring themes
• Asks powerful journaling questions to deepen my self-reflection
• Generates personalised affirmations based on my what I share with it
• Brainstorms and strengthens my goals

I trained it to be an actual thinking partner, and not just a tool that spits out answers. It now is my dream therapist, business strategist, and even my branding consultant.

Oh, and his name is Kai. Because, of course, I asked him to name himself. If you’d like to learn how I did this, listen to my latest podcast here.

Reconnecting With Your Inner Child

One thing that kept coming up when I was sharing my I Am Well journal prompts with my community was inner child work. This is also something Greg and I work on with our participants, in our leadership retreats.

Many of us grow up suppressing parts of ourselves because we were told they weren’t acceptable or practical. Maybe you loved painting but were told you’d never make money from art. Maybe you were told it was shameful to cry or have big feelings. Maybe you were never allowed to play. What we then do is we exile these parts of ourselves and lock them away in the basement. However, when you do this, you lose access to some of your deepest sources of joy, creativity, and connection.

One way to start healing is to invite those exiled parts back in. Call for them. Buy that Lego set you always wanted as a kid. Write a letter to your younger self, reminding them that their joy still matters. When you reconnect with your inner child, you reclaim lost parts of yourself. And that, in itself, is an act of healing.

Making Space for Growth

With anything in life, we need to invest in training. In banking, we always said this about financial modelling, “Rubbish in equals to rubbish out.” The way we design our tools, our habits, and our mindsets impacts everything. Train the systems around you to work for you. Let go of things that no longer serve you. Reconnect with the parts of yourself you’ve forgotten. And, you don’t have to do it alone.

One of the workshops that we have coming up is by my therapist, Volker Krohn, who is also the CEO of the Hoffman Centre Australia/Singapore and chairperson of the Hoffman Institute International. Through guided exploration and experiential activities, you will begin the journey of uncovering ingrained patterns and realigning your thoughts, feelings, and actions. This will help you to create a "gap" between triggers and automatic responses, empowering you to make more deliberate and authentic choices in how you engage with your environment.

This workshop, and the many others we are offering can become your first step towards widening that gap, reclaiming your freedom, and transforming how you live, love, and connect.

What will you let go of this month, and what will you reclaim?

Much love

Crystal

Upcoming Deep Human Institute Events

• Get your I Am Well journals here! It’s never too late to start!
• 9 Feb: B.R.A.V.E Speaking with Adrian Williams-Brett (AM session) - Learn from Adrian Williams-Brett, Senior Facilitator from the Hoffman Process, effective communication & public speaking skills
• 9 Feb: From Self Sabotage to Self Love with Adrian Williams-Brett (PM session)-A workshop in personal empowerment and overcoming limiting beliefs.
• 15 Feb: Inspired Speaking by Petrina Kow (Round 5 - SOLD OUT)
• 9 Mar: Introduction to the Hoffman Process - In this immersive one-day retreat, Volker will provide an introduction to the foundational concepts and principles of the Hoffman Process to reclaim your freedom, and transform how you live, love and connect.
• 15 Mar: Inspired Speaking by Petrina Kow (Round 6)
• 6 April: Find Your Enneagram Type and Unlock Your Personal Growth - A workshop in self-awareness, self-mastery and personal growth with international Enneagram expert and psychotherapist, Jutka Freiman.
• 14, 15 April: Deep Human Leadership - Our signature 2-day leadership masterclass where you'll take a deep dive into self-awareness, self-mastery, and mastering people skills.
• Check out all our events here.