How to make a sad life happier

The first thing came to my mind was you already know why this happens to you. You only have attracted all this to you. You had never studied well, no one else to blame for your results right? Now after giving nothing to your life you want returns? You like to attract good people and good job, good happenings to you right and that too without even trying?Lets close the mourning. And follow some simple steps: First write down why you have failed and what were/are those things in your personality/ habits you would never like to repeat. Stop blaming God /creator/ family / friends for getting what you get from them once or daily.

Accept all your mistakes, and write them down. Accept yourself what you are (and believe me you are supposed to be different and the way you are born; you have some purpose with this my lady). And you are beautiful in every way. Charm does not come with facial features and colour complexion, it comes with confidence and compassion. Start with some small internship programme even at very small package/stipend. This will help you with experience. Try to chose a job what you like that will help you grow faster than expected. And from now on wards promise yourself to work hard and hardest to make it up to your past mistakes. If you like to try some new courses, pull your socks; prepare and crack scholarship programmes and let others pay for your studies. There is always a solution to your problem.

Stop seeking approvals (good comments, praise, admiration, okay, go ahead etc.) from anyone at any choice, decision; however try to make them part of your happiness and share your plans and ideas with them. Let them give their opinion and thank them and pick whatever you like and move ahead. Don't bother much. Trust your energies. If you want to be loved, you will have to start loving people around you with compassion and without expecting in return. Love is spontaneous, it is not reason driven.

Try to be calm and smiling and you will be better everyday. Start any dance classes, gym, music, art, any programme of your choice. Start some yoga and meditation programme (This is first step if I make my choice). Spend more time in positive admiration of the world, your soul, your body and your life. The real beauty is not by face it's by heart, How you behave. Always feel that you are too beautiful and yes you are. Never think about rest of the world. How other thinks of you. And most important thing, you are here just because God wants you to be here because he gave you some particular task to be done by you

One more thing never underestimate your self. We all are gifted with some beautiful skill. All are not good in same task. You didn't like studying so think that you are made for something else. Where you can be best. think, what would you like to do? Just do that and give your 100%. I am also from Gujarat. All they have their own fate so you just think about how you can be the best at what you love to do.

And who said you are weak at communication. You are enough expressive. Language is for expression not for impression, one more thing still you have time to work hard, prepare for different competitive exams. Also you can prepare for masters, or MBA also you can start your own business. Do not think that your family doesn't care about you and never expect anyone to care about you. World is too selfish so you too be the same. Never be dependent on others. Be so strong so no one can hurt you. There are lots of inspirational stories in the world who were not so good at study though world remember them just due to their work. It's not your study or your grades it's you who can make the life beautiful and happy.

Remember one thing " for everyone God has made someone " so don't think of it. And if you don't get someone to marry then what? Lots of people don't marry in this world. Life is not all about marriage, it's about what you give to world not what you take. And never quit. Cowards do that and I am sure, you are not that. No one's life is sad or happy! Its our reaction to events that make it sad or happy. Happiness is a state of mind and a conscious decision. It begins and ends with what you have. Right now. If you want to be happy just be. I'll try to address the different issues mentioned by you.

A. As far as jobs are concerned many jobs don't require very high marks! Getting the first job always takes time, unless one is lucky enough to get one through campus placements. Just be patient and try for a job matching your interest/passions. It need not necessarily be in the field of your studies! Beautiful, ugly, average looking are all subjective! Everyone gets married irrespective of their looks. Just don't go by what others say. You should love yourself. You'll definitely find a man who will like you and will marry you. Absolutely no need to worry on that front at all. Just be patient and it will happens when the time comes.

You've family. You'll make friends in future once you get a job or get married. You'll also will have money. Please be patient. An idle man's brain is a devil's workshop. Keep yourself busy. Develop some hobby. Pursue whatever interest/passion you have. Please spare some time every day for that hobby. It could be anything like writing, singing etc., Don't do it for others. Pursue it for yourself. For your satisfaction. Get busy. You haven't wasted life. You are just beginning it. You have at least 50/60 years more to live! Plenty of time to do/achieve anything you want. Cheers!