How to Make the Most from the Digital Chaos without Losing Your Sanity.

We live in a digital age where our presence and communications are mostly online based.This obviously has both the good and the ugly sides.Being able to voice your opinion freely and being able to connect with diverse range of people around the world, sharing ideas and doing business are part of "the good" however we cannot deny it comes with a price.How many people have been attacked online? How many people have lost their mind over some hateful things people write based on what someone online said to them? If you are not strong, the online world can drive you into depression.So what do you do? Should you just sign off everything, cut it all down and alienate yourself from the beautiful yet painful digital chaos? The answer is NO my Dear!You will not miss out on what the online world has to offer and you can do so without losing your sanity, and here is how:

1) Unfollow- unfollow people who write negative stuff.Your life be it on or offline will not get better if you are surrounded by negativity!

2) Block - yes utilise the power of "blocking".If certain people say horrible things about you or to you, you know their intention is obviously to hurt you.Now why would you let them? Why giving them the "aired time" when you can simply "block"? Blocking is necessary well not unless you want a bad tumour which eventually will grow enough to eat you up like Cancer.

3) Control- now just because you don't give someone the aired time in your space, it does not stop them neither from continuing their rampage nor being evil or hateful.It is like you can remove a dog from your house but you can't stop them bark at you on the streets.So learn to let go of the dog, and tell yourself that the most powerful thing you have is the control over your mind.This simply means you do not join them on their streets.Stop reading hateful stuff especially about you because people can think and say what they want but if it does not serve you or better your life, you my friend learn to skip!

4) Broadcast wisely- always post uplifting stuff.Everytime I post about something bad, more people participate in this whole "bad" shenanigan.So I read and then I feel bad then everything I look at is bad!You are a magnet and you get what you broadcast!So it is important that you choose wisely.

5) No Guilt- do not feel obliged to comment on everybody's posts or replying to every John, Dick and Harry.People will not die from your absence of comments on their cat's photo or their bathroom selfie.You too have work to do and life to live!Cool and confident people will never lose their sleep when you didn't comment on their posts or pictures.Just like you they too are focusing on their other things.

6) Move on- when you find yourself caught up arguing with people whose intention is clearly not good for you , breath and ask yourself why am I wasting time and energy on someone who does not wish me well? And think about people who matter in your life.When I get caught up, I think of my belated mother and I could see her looking over me with love.She (no matter where she is) is proud that I have not failed looking after her mother and our family.Then I would call my Nanna who at the age of 84- my voice on the line is probably one of the best things she ever wants.When you are caught up in an argument with people who do not matter, call someone in your life who matters.You will gain almost an instant clarity and perspective to help you look at this person you have been arguing with and say "I know what matters...so meh to you I am moving on".At this point you realise, what real victory really is.

7) Grow - if you find someone whose stories have inspired you, connect with them or follow them.You become beautiful by admiring someone else' beauty.I learn a lot from people I admire.I look up to them and inspired to be good like them (but in my own ways& style).

8) Business- 80% of my business is done online.If you spend almost 24 hours online and not earning then you are doing it wrong! Browsing through celebrities instagrams? Trying to find the funniest gif or emoticon to add to your online debate? Proud to be the "advanced" contributor on Reddit or Facebook group? Actively involved in all bashing and bringing people down posts? Dear life- you gotta STOP all of THAT!

9) Flaunt & Flaws- it is okay to want to flaunt your stuff sometimes.There is nothing wrong with feeling good or beautiful but remember that if you are not a Victoria Secret model, you are not a Victoria Secret Model.And that (being okay with your flaws) in itself is most beautiful.

10) Celebrate Success- when you come across someone doing so well, instead of raising your eyebrows, moving your lips in a strange direction trying to find faults in that person or their photos, celebrate with them.Smile and truly and genuinely be happy for other people's success.Express your kind words.If you keep this habit long and real enough, you will find that success is nothing strange to you.In fact it is something you are familiar with and no surprise it also is coming to YOU.

11) Have time off- every now and then do take time off.Go on holiday where no insta photos need to be uploaded.Catch up with friends and family and do some simple things like cooking or gardening.Playing with kids and animals also do wonder to your health.I sometimes visit a temple and buy coffins for those who passed with unknown next of kin...an incredibly peaceful feeling I get from being able to give to another person with no acknowledgement and no credits to my action.

Take time off when you can...enjoy the nature, feel the sand through your bare feet, be in awe by the blue colour of the ocean and all the simple things in life.

Love

CJ

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