How Letting Go Leads to Success

In these unpredictable times, it’s easy for us to yearn to know what is going to happen, to be more tied into?to knowing what the outcome for most circumstances are.

However, it maybe that one of the best strategies for getting what we want is to psychologically release our insistence that things go our way or keep focusing on our preconceived notions of what we want. Similar to a watched pot not boiling, too much impatient focus may make it harder for us to obtain our desired outcome.

?The Law of Attraction, a popular manifesting theory, says that when we desperately desire something, we are conveying to the Universe negative messages that come out of fear, jealousy, greed and hopelessness. When we put too much emphasis on a person/situation/object to create our happiness, we are using forces contradictory to the Law of Attraction which is about flow and freedom.

The Law of Attraction manifests our predominant thoughts, so focusing on how unhappy we are without X only creates more lack and emptiness. When we reframe these thoughts and tell ourselves, “Okay, I can live without this”, or “Maybe it’s not meant to be”, we release our attachment to our desired outcome and allow more energy from the Universe to help us reach our goals.

I hope this article will inspire you to let go of something you may be holding onto and are too attached to.

It’s Sometimes Darkest Before the Dawn

This letting go worked for one of my clients in her fifties. She had recently located to a new area and didn’t have many contacts. Although she hated the networking and reaching out to even warm contacts. We worked together to remind her that many people to enjoy helping others and that her reaching out would not be "a burden". After months of reaching out, going to women's events, she was very discouraged. However, when she allowed herself to have her feelings, and “gave up” for a while, she was contacted by a former colleague who knew of a job opening. One month later, she is about to start a wonderful new position that is perfect for her skill set and interests.

When Something Doesn’t Go Your Way

When something isn’t going your way, perhaps it’s time to look at the situation with a different view. Is it time to investigate new options or solutions when your initial ideas aren’t bearing fruit? Ask yourself if there are other ways to achieve your goal-or if you your ego is too attached to things working out exactly the way you want. What lessons have you learned in the past when you don’t get what you want?

Moving Forward

Make a list of three or four situations where you let go of your expectations and your "pictures" or plans, and you got an even more desirable outcome.?

What qualities did you demonstrate to help you let go and give up these expectations or outcomes??

What part of your life are you having the most trouble letting go in??

What fear(s) prevent you from letting go in this area? What actions could you take to help you let go?

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