How to Learn if You Are NOT Ready for Hypnotherapy: Eight Simple Questions

I recently wrote a series of articles about creating a non-smoking mindset. I gathered these ideas and additional information together into an e-book that is available on my website.

 

On the day I finished writing the program, I reached out to two family members who are smokers and asked them if they would like to participate so that they could reduce their intake of cigarettes or quit entirely. I wanted a smoker's perspective on the ideas presented.

 

The answer from each was, “I'll try.”

 

When you are faced with someone you love consuming a deadly product; partaking in a habit that is shortening their time on this earth with you and their response is, “I'll try,” then you know that their habit, the cigarettes, are more important to them than their family.

 

It's a heartbreaking realization.

 

“I'll try” is a cop-out. It leaves the door open for them to just give up because they didn't truly commit to the program.

 

“I'll try,” says, “I expect to fail, because I failed before and I would be embarrassed to fail again.” This perspective does not even acknowledge the possibility of learning something new and growing. It is not about making a commitment to the possibility of a new future, it's about fear of repeating the past.

 

“I'll try” says “When it gets too hard, I'll just stop the program because my goals for life do not extend beyond my next cigarette craving.”

 

“I'll try” says “I'm not really interested, but I'll say something that sounds like I am.”

 

“I'll try” says “I have given my personal power and identity to a cylinder of leaves. This is who I am, that is all I am.”

 

I cannot make anyone change their ways. My profession is not one of control, this is a common misconception that I have addressed in the past.

 

I am here to help individuals grow and discover their true identity and personal power.

 

Depending on what they are going through, it may take many sessions and much emotional release. Sometimes it's as easy as a simple hypnotic suggestion session to get them on track to finding their true nature.

 

This article is presented as a series of questions, a make-shift flow-chart, if you will, to help you decide if you are up to committing to changing your life with hypnotherapy.

 

The only answers to the questions in this article are “yes” and “no.” Unacceptable answers include, “I can try,” “maybe,” or “I don't know.” The most honest of these responses is “I don't know.” At least from that perspective you can choose to learn more or stay stuck. The other answers are excuses for staying where you are not happy, healthy or growing.

 

In the words of Yoda, “There is no try. There is only do or do not.”

 

Hold a pencil in your hand. Now try to drop it. You either dropped it or you did not; you did not “try” to drop it.

If you are a smoker, ignore your next craving. It will go away. Do not “try” to ignore it; simply choose to ignore it – find something else to engage your attention or to relieve your perceived stress.

 

No challenge is insurmountable. Our only barrier is our belief in our ability to achieve a goal.

 

If you truly want to achieve a goal, you will find a way to do it. It may be a hard road to success, but your drive will keep you moving forward every day. On some days you will achieve many proverbial steps on you path, other days you will inch forward as if you were a snail.

 

The important thing is that you commit to moving forward.

 

1. Do you want to change your life?

 

If your answer is “yes,” then read on. If it is “no,” then stop reading now and find something better to do with the next few minutes of your life.

 

2. Are you willing to make potentially drastic changes to your life? (For example, if you are a smoker, are you willing to find new friends who don't smoke; If you are in a one-sided, bad relationship, are you willing to take responsibility for yourself and move out of it?)

 

If your answer is “yes,” then read on. If it is “no,” then stop reading now and find something better to do with the next few minutes of your life.

 

3. Are you willing to take responsibility for being in your situation, for you life being exactly where it is right now, doing what you are doing right now, surrounded by the people whom surround you right now? No excuses, no blaming others or mysterious forces for your position. Are you ready to take responsibility for yourself?

 

If your answer is “yes,” then read on. If it is “no,” then stop reading now and find something better to do with the next few minutes of your life.

 

4. Do you have a vision or a feeling that you are destined for something bigger in this life? Do you have a dream of accomplishing something more than what you are currently doing? Do you feel like you are wasting your time being stuck?

 

If your answer is “yes,” then read on. If it is “no,” then stop reading now and find something better to do with the next few minutes of your life.

 

5. Have you tried other avenues to change your life? Seminars, counseling, new jobs, new relationships and/or new friends? Have you moved to a new town or state to create a new life, but found that it's all the same, “Wherever you go, there you are.” You just brought your baggage with you.

 

If your answer is “yes,” then read on. If it is “no,” then stop reading now and find something better to do with the next few minutes of your life.

 

6. Are you ready to drop your bags, the ones that you no longer need and create something new? Let go of the past that holds you back and move forward with strength from the foundation of what works in your life?

 

If your answer is “yes,” then read on. If it is “no,” then stop reading now and find something better to do with the next few minutes of your life.

 

7. Are you willing to try hypnotherapy as a tool to help empower you to reach your goals?

 

If your answer is “yes,” then read on.

 

If your answer is “no,” then you are probably not a good candidate for hypnotherapy at this time. When you are ready to answer “yes,” then please contact me.

 

If you are on the fence, reach out and we can discuss it – no pressure. I promise to listen and give you a fair assessment.

 

A “Yes- attitude” is important for your success. I will not accept your business unless you are committed to yourself.

 

8. Are you ready to move forward now?

 

If your answer is “yes,” then contact me and we'll schedule a free 30-minute consultation. Online sessions are available for anyone, anywhere in the world. We'll work out the time zone differences, I am here to help you reach your goals.

 

 

Daniel Olexa, CCHt

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Whole. New. YOU!