How Introverts Can Date Successfully

I have an appreciation for introverts. After all, many of my clients are introverts.

Being an introvert has its strengths and challenges – especially when it comes to dating for a serious relationship.

The definition of an introverted person is someone shy, reticent, or predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things.

They tend not to be the life of the party although many show up as friendly, social people.

And I find that they have a harder time dating than extroverts.

The Myers-Briggs definition of introversion involves a tendency to derive energy from the time spent alone. Time spent around other people may be experienced as emotionally or psychologically draining.

This is a major issue for most introverts when it comes to dating. People (especially new people) can drain their energy and dating takes a lot of energy.

What I notice is that my introverted friends and clients prefer smaller groups of people that they know really well. In this way, they don’t have to work so hard to maintain a conversation.

Because I understand this, when I work with my introverted clients my coaching nudges them out of their comfort zone instead of tossing them out of it!

Let me share what works best for my introverted clients to meet their life partners.

1.??????Online dating has been, hands down, the best approach for my introverted clients.

Many introverts tend to express themselves well by the written word in part because they can think ahead about what they want to communicate.

This means that the messaging inherent to online dating works well and allows them to warm up a relationship before meeting their potential partner. And this means the first meeting is usually much easier.

2.??????Activities that involve small groups of people with a common interest such as game nights or bowling leagues are best. These small groups allow introverts to get to know people at a deeper level, see how react to certain situations, not necessarily the people.

I know some male introverts who are great dancers and women want to dance with them! However, going to large mixers is not the place for my introverted clients.

3.??????Introverts do well with introductions from people they know well and trust, especially by those who are more extroverted or have wider social groups. Introverts love to hang out with extroverts who do all the work so they don’t have to worry about what to say!

4.??????Introverts tend to date only one person at a time. They typically don’t have the energy to date multiple people at the same time. So when they meet someone they like, they tend to focus on that one person. This makes them seem more trustworthy. They also desire exclusivity fairly quickly so they can see where the relationship has the potential to go.

5.??????Introverts prefer to leave the part and find a quiet place to talk. This behavior allows them to give their full attention to that one person. This makes the recipient of their attention feel special because they’re not surveying the room to see who else they can meet.

As it turns out, I married an introvert. He pushed himself to go to a young professionals bicycling group to meet a woman. He set his sights on me (we had met 5 years earlier at a dance, but that’s another story). This allowed him to focus and find opportunities for us to have one-on-one time.

He’s fine with being in group settings for a limited time. And he enjoys his alone time for recharging.

And that was a good thing. He wasn’t trying to meet other women. And he’s fine with me going a social butterfly.

As a couple, we’ve learned to respect our differences and particular needs.

Because of my knowledge and appreciation of introverts, my introverted men and women clients have done very well and met wonderful partners.

If you need some support and a nudge in the right direction, let’s talk.

My clients are living their dream lives. One boomer client just came back from Paris with his new wife of 6 months. Another boomer client was just skiing in Montana with her boyfriend of 2 months. And another soon-to-be-married-millennial client is having a baby this summer!

I have one opening for a private client this April. Your time is now!

Go to the link in the comments so I can show you how to finally meet your true love – and have the life you’re meant to have. I will give you the personal time and attention you need and deserve!

Seriously, I only have one slot open in April. I am fully there for my private clients so I limit the number I take on. Don’t delay. Go to https://motivatedtomarry.com/connect-with-coach-amy/ to access my online scheduler today.