How improving your relationship with money will make you more effective

You think your relationship with money affects only you and your dollars (or pounds, euros, yens...)? Think again.

Your relationship with money impacts all aspects of your life, even if right now you're thinking, "I don't care about money."

And what's scariest: unless you bring it to the forefront, your relationship with money will keep running a lot of your decisions from a hidden control room in the back of your mind.

Your firing / hiring decisions

If money is your only compass, you may miss out on talent because they lack "money-making" potential. But what about their innovation, creativity, problem-solving skills?

Or you might hire people just because you know they can make you money––but what will they do to the team's morale?

Your love life

Maybe you stay in a marriage that's unsustainable just to avoid the expenses of a divorce.

Or you delay couples coaching because you say to yourself you "can't afford" it, all the while enduring a painful, joyless life that will end up costing you more––what price tag do you put on your sanity and fulfillment?

Or you keep dating people who're not really a match but you believe the better-for-you ones are "out of your league."

Your ambition

Sustainable ambition and a healthy relationship with money go hand in hand.

I define sustainable ambition as the natural desire for more without driving ourselves to exhaustion.

Obsession with money isn't sustainable, because it'll prevent us from forming fulfilling personal relationships. It may make us see people as a means to an end, since money is our only goal in life.

Or we may put all our expectations to find fulfillment, self-esteem, and the peace of mind we can't find in ourselves, in that vague idea of "more.

We may say, "I'll focus on my relationship with my spouse when I have the title." Or "I'll pick a hobby once I get my business to 7-figures." Or "I'll go on vacations with the family only when I close this deal."

But also, lacking ambition is unsustainable, and a signal that our relationship with money is flimsy. We may consider ambition something "dirty" or "ugly"––like, "it's not civil to want more."

But, whether you're a business owner or corporate leader, how do you think your lack of ambition is going to support you and your clients/team?

Do you think you can want more for others when you don't allow yourself to want it for yourself?

I'm Carolina Perez Sanz. I help leaders multiply success by getting four key relationships right: with self, money, with people in your work world, your life partner.

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