How to Improve Knowledge and Bonds With Disagreements

There’s so much bad argument out there but disagreement is needed. Disagreement is our way of thinking collaboratively and can unite people. Your emotions will be tied to your point as we think with emotions. Emotions will be key in driving us to better answers and arguments. Conflict isn’t often about facts but the state of your relationships. If there’s no good relationship, you cannot have a rational argument.

Some cultures consider more context whenever having discussions. But, with western cultures, it is much more direct given the diverse culture. The more people are willing to speak up, the more disagreements will happen. Online, it’s bad to disagree with people as context is harder to grasp.

Conflict can strengthen your knowledge and relationships. Disagreements cause stress on relationships but this brings strength. Research shows issues get resolved quicker during heated arguments. This is because you get to see what the person thinks about things.

If you don’t know people’s strong opinions, you don’t truly know them. You better know this person quickly if you want a long-term relationship. Avoiding disagreements, they may be expressed passive-aggressively. Then, disagreements should not be seen as high-stakes but normal.

Very productive disagreements occur when you’re emotionally invested. This is because you’ll be working harder to come up with reasons. Know that disagreements are not about winning but about discovering. It’s not about one person being right but both people concluding.

Disagreements go wrong when you ignore creating a good relationship. Make sure you settle the person down first and make them more secure. People are not going to have a good disagreement if they feel insecure. Then, you need to give the other person freedom and your interest. Don’t force a person to speak up on a disagreement or show no interest. The worst problem in disagreements is it becomes a power struggle.

Source: Ian Leslie