How I stopped attracting toxic relationships, time wasters & the non-committers and how I found real love through the power of human intelligence

My body froze… I was numb, my ears were ringing with the silence of the terror filled moment that had just occurred… all I could see was shards of glass everywhere.

Just moments before we were having a few drinks in the living room, and I'd accidentally knocked over a glass and he just totally freaked out over it… 

He grabbed a glass and threw it in the kitchen where it exploded everywhere. 

He grabbed onto the door frame and screamed at it… he screamed at the door frame!

He then came over and pulled back to hit me…  

So that was kind of like my Oh, shit moment.

He stopped and said, “you didn’t think I was actually going to hit you… did you?

This was my boyfriend of 2 years towering over me… just a naive 19 year old girl at the time.

The difficult part of it psychologically was that he had logical points to back up his behavior. 

He was a police officer, a so-called protector. 

So in my mind, I was thinking everything else was going well, he's a good guy. 

And even when that incident happened, why would he want to go and hit me. 

It never occurred to me that I needed to go and tell someone… instead I was like, I need to keep this quiet because I've also done something bad. 

I felt ashamed… like if I were to tell someone what had happened, everyone would be wondering what I did to make him want to hit me? 

And yeah, so there was a lot of self blame and shame. 

Like I was at fault for his abusive behaviour!

At the same time, here I had this great job, I was ambitiously climbing the ladder to success in my personal life, I thought I had really perfected this confident persona… many would look from the outside and say by all measures I was crushing it in life!

But inside, there was a scared little girl screaming for help!

I just assumed it was me. 

I was constantly thinking what do I need to do to fix this? 

How do I fix this relationship? 

I know I must be doing something wrong. 

I would go searching online and look at those blogs like 10 things to make him love you… 

My psychology and emotional state were filled with clouds of confusion, denial, shame, and extreme feelings of emptiness… Yet nobody knew it.

I didn't tell any friends, family… no one knew anything about all this shit that was going on at all until after the relationship. 

I felt so alone, I was looking online at YouTube videos, I started following this lady called Rori Raye, and it was very much like “lean into your emotions”… go into your feminine place and all this rubbish. 

It was like, communicate your feelings more effectively. 

It's kind of like playing a game of chess, or having this weird experiment for a relationship. If I do this, what would he do? It was like, exhausting.

I never once heard, he's the one that’s wrong. 

You need to protect yourself. 

It was more like, I'm doing something wrong. I need to be able to heal him or heal me. It was more about how to make my partner... who's dangerous BTW, love me more. 

My depression reached epic highs because of all this. 

I remember thinking, I have to stay with him and to protect other people from being with him. 

WTF! (this sounds crazy to me now, but this is where I was)

Like I needed to self sacrifice to help others… how twisted is that! 

I wasn’t helping anyone by staying in that relationship. But... I stayed. 

I actually stayed with him after all that… 

You know, he actually said he had PTSD, which might have been true, but I’m not a therapist and if that’s the case he needed professional help, not a girlfriend to abuse. 

But he was like, screaming into pillows, screaming at doorways, throwing dishes... It was crazy. 

That was one of the narratives. 

That was one of the excuses he was giving me that was keeping me in the whole mindset of “It's my fault.” 

“I'm doing something wrong.” 

“He's still a good guy.” 

“I need to find out how to make him love me.” 

But staying just made it worse.

Believe it or not, this hell became my access to power, control & freedom!

Not that I needed the abuse to strengthen my character or whatever rubbish I was being told… 

But because I reached out to a mentor and acquired the mindsets, and skill sets to help myself and my clients hit new levels of true authenticity and love!

I discovered how to play the infinite game of true love (for myself and others) and now I help others do the same!

If this even sounds remotely like a situation where you think a conversation could help, look no further, don’t waste another second, don’t procrastinate and risk your safety and security… 

It’s needless time wasted, believe me… I know!

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