HOW I FOUND A WAY TO BUILD CONSISTENT CONFIDENCE

Today, I wanted to share a story that's a bit more personal than usually.

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You probably know that confidence is a topic I talk about a lot.

Maybe most often, even.

And maybe you think that I do because I am super-confident?

and always have been.

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Women I meet have long asked me to teach them confidence.

But for the longest time, I couldn't.

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Because the truth is,?

while I had the good fortune and privilege to feel confident?

about myself and what I do for most of my earlier life –

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I could only start supporting others?

in building their confidence?

when I had lost and re-found my own.

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Back in 2013, I arrived as a new immigrant to the US

to get married to the love of my life,?

a man I had dated many, many years earlier and just re-met.

I was on Cloud 9, and as a pretty solid optimist

I embarked on the new adventure as if nothing bad could happen.

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As it turned out, while my now-husband was indeed waiting for me,

the rest of Seattle (or the US) certainly was not.

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For the first time in my life, I had a hard time making friends.

I lost tons of German clients because I was not available?

during their standard business hours,

and I had no idea how to find new ones here

as my only “marketing” was building personal relationships

and trusting the word-of-mouth of satisfied clients.

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What would I have to teach American professionals

what support did I have to offer them as a coach?

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Most of all, I lost trust in the value?

I could provide to people.

And I had no idea how to act – or be ME –?

without the self-trust and confidence.

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Combined with homesickness and culture shock,?

my self-doubts got bad enough that I would only accept?

the most standard communication projects

– things I had done a thousand time and had long outgrown –

because they felt like the only jobs I could trust myself to do.

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Not even being in love could make up for how bad I felt.

Eventually, I admitted that I was depressed.

I went to therapy and got on medication, and I slowly got better.

That's when I started to explore my wants and needs again.

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And I realized what I missed most of all:

a community of badass women –?

and working with them too.

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I joined a female-focused coworking space, The Riveter,

where I made friends for life and found the support to start over.

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It's where I hosted my first workshops –

on negative self-talk, the imposter syndrome, and perfectionism,

the things I had struggled so much with over the past few years.

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It's also where I found and met with my first American coaching clients.

And learned that I had plenty of value to give after all.

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It took quite a while to get back to my confident self

– or maybe I should say: to a new confident self –

and eventually women started to ask me again?

if I could help them become more confident.

And this time I knew I could.

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I looked back at how I had re-built my confidence

after feeling so little of it for a few years.

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And then I thought about all the decades before

and realized I had used the same strategies!?

I just hadn't been paying conscious attention to it.

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What I developed from these insights back in 2018 and 2019

is at the core of how I support my clients today.?

It's a system that has worked for me over and over again,

and for many women who have learned to apply it as well.

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Granted, we will all have days and weeks and maybe months

where we are not at our most confident self.

And that's okay because that's part of being human.

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But what I can promise you is:

There is a way to feel more consistently confident.

And I can teach you how to get there.

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If you want to know more, reply INTERESTED to this email –

and don't forget to sign up for my free masterclass on Wednesday !

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Love, Micha

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P.S.

If you haven't registered yet for my upcoming masterclass,?

I invite you to do so now!

Just go to bit.ly/ShiftIntoConfidence !

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