How I cured my seething jealousy

I’m no stranger to jealousy.

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I was very jealous of my little sister growing up.

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She was the skinny one and she was great at gymnastics.??

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She’d always have a crowd of people around her when we traveled as a family and we waited for the ferry (we live on an island so we’d visit Vancouver frequently for my dad’s business).

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She was the one people “ooh and aaahed” over.?

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Meanwhile I was the heavy one in the corner.?

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My dad would ask me “have you gained weight?”

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And I just wanted to hide and die. And I would have given anything to be her.?

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I wasn’t very mature in how to handle jealous either.?

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I was very mean to her.?

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But here is what I know now.

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If I’m jealous it’s because I want something that I don’t have but it’s not necessarily the exact same thing the person has.?

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Here’s what was also important for me to realize.

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I could always find a way to get what I wanted.

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What I wanted was to be celebrated like her.

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What I wanted was to feel comfortable in my body like she was.

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And both of those things were possible for me but I totally missed that.?

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And I totally missed what I already had that I could put to use.

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Because I used my energy in a way that didn’t fuel me.?

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Instead I used it to create evil plans to make her feel bad in an attempt to take away what she had. (Which of course wasn’t really possible to do anyway) so making her feel bad seemed to make sense.?

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Instead of using my energy to create ways for me to get what I wanted.

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Years later I now realize I could have easily had what she had.

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I was a great singer and whenever I sang people were very impressed.?

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I could work out and get obsessed with my health and wellness and I can feel comfortable in my body too.

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Instead I seethed.?

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I was mean.

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And it did nothing to make MY life better.

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It didn’t serve me in the slightest.

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In fact it just set me back.

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This was before life coaching tools entered my life.?

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Now I know:? if I’m noticing myself feeling jealous.?

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It’s a little nod to myself to identify what’s missing from my life that I want.

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And then I strategize to figure out how to create my best version of that for myself. And I honour that I want it.

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Ambitious people will want things.

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She has things that she needs to work on more that come really easily to me and Visa versa.?

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My sister and I are great friends now and I helped her get her six figure jobs (I referred her for her first role) and as she starts her marketing agency now she texts me all the time with questions.

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She can help me with financial stuff and investments.?

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It’s my honour to help.

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I’m just glad she forgave me for being such a B***h to her when we were young.? ?

If you’ve ever felt jealous of a co-worker, if you’ve ever felt life was unfair because you didn’t get something you deserved.?

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Let’s get it for you. Let’s create your way to get it.?

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One thing I know is there’s always a way for you to get what you want.?

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Even if it doesn’t end up looking exactly the same as you thought it would have to. (And trust me, I was never going to be good at gymnastic back or front walk overs and I never needed to be to lead an amazingly abundant and fulfilled life) ;)?

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Jealousy is there for a reason. It’s there to tell you something. It’s got an important message that when heard correctly can change your entire trajectory.?

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- Natalie

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