How Healthy is Your Relationship with Money?

In June I’ll be celebrating nearly 28 years of marriage to my husband.

Yes, those numbers are pretty impressive but here’s what I’m particularly proud of.

We live in a culture that celebrates years together but not necessarily quality of time or quality of relationship.

After 28 years can I give a full-bodied YES to the following questions?

Has our love grown deeper?

Are we better together now than we were at the beginning?

Do we continue to elevate one another?

Are we better equipped to deal with the inevitable challenges of life?

Am I being the woman and wife who contributes fully to this level of relationship?

Here’s what I know after 28 years of marriage.

I love my husband, even more, today than I did in the beginning.

I can always count on him to be there for me (especially when I’m not at my best)

I feel supported in my dreams and goals.

We have lots of fun together.

I feel safe in our relationship.

I don’t worry that one day he’s there for me and the next day he’s not.

I can always count on him without second-guessing.

We continue to learn new things about one another.

We continue to grow.

I feel very feminine AND in my power in our relationship (this is hugely important to me)

So what does this have to do with business?

The glue that keeps a relationship thriving is love (that comes from both people)

When love is no longer present or imbalanced, we either stagnate and accept this is just the way it is or we leave.

When love is ever present and continually expanding, we continue to thrive together and as individuals.

In business the glue that keeps business thriving is money (that also comes through people).

When there’s not enough of it flowing, we will ultimately have to close the doors.

Or we settle for second best and tell ourselves this is as good as it’s going to get.

We stay in survival & struggle mode.

It took me almost needing to shut down my earlier business (as bankruptcy was a real threat) to discover that my own relationship with money was highly dysfunctional.

I had a love-hate relationship with money that I can best describe as having my head in the sand and hoping naively it would miraculously work itself out.

I loved the feeling when money was coming in.

But it would disappear quickly.

I didn’t seem to have any control over how it showed up in my business.

It felt highly mysterious.

A little like the lover who would be loving and attentive one moment and then leave in the shadows in the middle of the night, without any idea if he’d ever return again.

Shining the light on my own relationship with money and then translating that into a business model that was highly aligned with who I am and what I want to create in the world was the missing piece of the puzzle that unlocked millions for me.

If you’re tired of money feeling like the lover who entices you in only to disappear in the middle of the night - reach out for help.

I may just have something for you

You deserve to live richly

Vanessa x

#getrichwithoutbeingabitch