How Has Investing in Coaching Changed My Life?

When was the last time you had somebody on your side, looking at your flaws, seeing ALL of you and believing in you 100%?

I think one of the greatest gifts that we can be given is perspective either from ourselves or from others who are where we want to be. 

When I work with clients and I hear the words coming out of the mouths that they are too overweight or not talented enough for what they want or anything else like that, I listen and acknowledge that that is where they are at and at the same time, I’m holding their bigger vision in my head because that is where your true power lies. It is my job to hold space for them, where they’re at right now so that they can move into that bigger vision. 

There are not many people in life you can count on to tell you the honest truth and reality about a situation and often when you encounter people like that it’s people telling you negative things. It’s funny, every time I have worked with a coach, I have major up-and-down negative/positive feelings towards them. The thing that gets me about working with a coach is that they tell you the honest truth about your potential and sometimes that’s really scary. Sometimes it’s a perspective you have never heard before. This can cause a whole range of mixed emotions, truly.. Your mind or ego wants to fight back and say no, that’s wrong because that’s not what is normal. What is normal is to stay in the comfort zone and be who you have always been, that is “safe”. 

So the ego and the mind says that the coach is… Many different names… The trick that I’ve found is here is to stay on track and understand that you enlisted their help for a reason and that reason is to get you fucking moving into the bigger vision.

Whilst I’ve had negative thoughts and feelings towards my coaches, it doesn’t change the overwhelming positives. The fact that every time they have always helped me to expand greater than I could’ve done by myself and through that I am always so grateful and see the value in getting a coach through whatever I am going through at the time and in the moment. Now that I have experienced what this truly means, I will never go back to not getting coaching through whatever I need. 

The first time I paid for coaching for my personal life was transformative. I had no idea what to expect. I sat down with this guy I’d never met before and shared what was going on and before he just fucking lit it up he warned me: I’m not a psychologist, there’s no time limit on this session, I have no rules to play by, so you’ll feel uncomfortable, I encourage you to feel this and allow it to be with us in this space.. this is what it’s all about. 

And then he fucking lit it up and he did in 2 hours what I’d been trying to gain from psychologists for years. 

I have seen therapists and psychologists since I was 12 years old and yes they are so helpful for diving into the past but have never help me to really move into a bright big future that I’ve always wanted. Once I had overcome my depression & could start thinking bigger, that’s when I needed someone who could get me to that vision, who could push me, without the “rules” involved in the medical profession. Without the “Alright that’s 60 minutes, see you again next week” kind of vibe. 

What do you really want? 

On a client call the other night, we were talking about jogging & how she felt like she really “should” go jogging. Well, I don’t like the word ‘should’. We all know what that really means. So, I asked her “Do you want to go jogging?” over and over and over until she finally shouted “NO I don’t want to!” and we laughed because it was so funny that it took so long to get to that conclusion, but I wasn’t giving up on her, I knew she had it in her and I could see the truth of the situation and that perspective I believe is so invaluable, therefore I pushed for her truth. 

That’s the power of a coach. 

An advocate for your own personal truth. 

It truly is life changing and the rewards you get are so far beyond what you can imagine before you start.  

Since receiving this level of support, every time I have a conversation with somebody new or that I haven’t spoken to in a while I feel these huge shifts inside of me in the way that I speak, the way that I hold myself, the way that I carry myself, the way that I am present in a situation and I am so proud of myself for that, I’m so happy for that, it’s such an amazing place to be and I am so so grateful for what I’ve done for me and how much I’ve invested in myself in time, energy and money.

I’ve gone from a sliver of self-belief to no doubt in my mind that I can succeed and I will succeed. The seed has been planted it is time to grow a motherfucking tree!!

If you have any questions about coaching and what it involves, you are welcome to send me a message on my Instagram and we can chat.