How to Harness the Primal Power of Grief
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How to Harness the Primal Power of Grief

It took me a while to become comfortable in sharing my most vulnerable moment in my life: the day I fell apart into primal screaming. One would think that it might have been the moment I was told my husband had died - but it wasn't.

When I received that phone call from a Sergeant from the Coroner's Office, the world around me started spinning at a faster pace, while I slid into surreal slow motion. Then I switched into functioning mode; I had to tell the boys.

My moment came with a 3 week delay:

  • After telling the boys
  • After telling his parents
  • After flying to the other side of the country to identify his body
  • After arranging the funeral
  • After the Celebration of Life for Rob
  • After walking our son down the aisle to his first Holy Communion, that same week...

That night was when it all came tumbling down, and I fell apart. It was ugly, and I found myself on our kitchen floor, whacking cupboard doors, first shouting, then screaming my lungs out, until it turned into primal screaming. It was like an out of body experience for me, and it scared me.

What I didn't know in that very moment, is how to harness that power to rebuild myself.

At first it felt rather destructive. I needed to let go of all expectations, lean into trust, and learn to listen to my inner guidance, my intuition. I needed to learn how to harness that immense power within me.

To the outside world it looked rather different. They mostly saw me as strong. As the SoleParent, now chasing happiness for her kids, doing everything in my power to create the best life possible for them... Creating new and happy memories, travelling around the world.

Quite frankly I couldn't care less about what the outside world thought of me; because in my falling apart, in my primal screaming, I not only met my weakest point, but also my strongest. I was blown away by the primal power, and I started redirecting it into becoming the best version of my new self. I tell you, it did not happen overnight, yet the decision to go there was instant.

There's an art to harnessing your power - and it looks different for everyone.

Over the years, taking 5,000 people onto their healing journey, I have learned and created enough tools to equip anyone dealing with grief, with everything they need to harness theirs.

I am rather passionate about bringing these tools into the workspace.

If anyone in your work environment is going through grief right now, if you run your own business, or are in the HR or Leadership & Development department, I invite you to have a conversation about how I can support your team through grief. My workshops aim to support the bereaved, as well as the team, so everyone feels more comfortable, and the productivity of your teams is taken care of too!

Grief affects all of us.

We need a community where we can heal.

Let's create them!

With Love x

Marie


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