How to Handle Rejection
Willpower “Will” Harris
Social Entrepreneur | Social Media Influencer & Consultant ?? | Revenue Growth Specialist ? Committed to Building a Better World for All ??
How do you handle rejection? I did the calculations and identified 81 people on LinkedIn rejected me today. That means they said…"NO. My life is better without you in it - in any way." Some people would take that quite personal.
Let’s look at three different ways to handle rejection.
1 – Count The Yeses
You can count the No’s or count the number of Yeses. Start counting the Yes. Those are the only ones that really matter. The Yeses are the people, the customers, or the friends who see your true value and say “YES! I want you in my life in some way because you make it better.”
2 – Monitor Your Self-Talk
All of us talk to ourselves before or after a professional connection. We can think things like, “It’ll never happen!” or “I’m in a slump that I can’t get out.” Reinforcing negative thoughts by repeating them to yourself is counterproductive. It slowly erodes your confidence. Customers can sense lack of confidence. Ask yourself this question: Would you associate with someone who spoke to you the way you speak to yourself?
3 – Remember Your Network
Remember the people who value being connected to you. Your network includes customers and colleagues. Remember your existing network as you are attempting to expand your reach. It builds your confidence much like reviewing sports highlight films build up the athlete’s self-confidence. Remember your highlights from your network. On a day when 81 people rejected me, 4,000 people on LinkedIn and over 1 million people on Facebook thought differently. That’s a grand total of 1,004,000 people seeing my value. Well, that’s not exactly true. 1,004,002 is more accurate. My wife and son saw value in me, too. (Neither of them are on Social Media.)
Those two Yeses make trying for the other Yeses worth the effort. Do you have any Yeses in your life that make prospecting worth the effort? That is all you need to handle rejection properly.
Visit my website and allow me to help you count up more YESES.
www.WillpowerHarris.com
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5 年Wonderful article. I loved it.
Director & Business Head-Expert in related fields - Pen Name - Kallings
5 年Even if the counts were opposite still you would- continue to be a great leader and person. All the best!!
Digital Marketer | Funnel Builder | Marketing Psychology | Helping Businesses Scale with Data-Driven Strategies
5 年I think is a matter of perception, you can see the "no" different, for me I look for the "no" because I'm closer for the "Yes" that way I see them as positive. Example if I know that for every "Yes" I need 40 "no" I want to get them faster. If I get a lot of "Yes" I know that I have to pay the price later.?
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5 年A Very Sweet Approach... Enlightened... Energized - Thanks
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5 年Thoroughly enjoyed this post, Will. Starting with a corporate sales background, I discovered early on not to focus on how many prospects said NO but, instead, to derive confidence and discover self-affirmation from those who provided me with a YES. Many of us have a solid work ethic, but the self-knowledge and awareness of our other "soft skill" attributes and character traits help us grow in significant ways: in influence, leadership, success and the extension of relationships.