How to get unstuck
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“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
John Maxwell in his ’Jump Start Your Growth’ clearly mentions that whenever he takes time to pause and reflect, he begins by asking questions to himself. He does that when he hits a roadblock. He says he asks a lot of questions to himself. It is an unavoidable factor when it comes to clarity.
If your questions are honest, they will lead to conviction.?
“Never lose a holy curiosity,” said Einstein
The initial step to breaking free from feeling stuck is to question your current situation.
?Ask yourself, ‘Why am I doing what I'm doing?’, ‘What didn’t work well for me’?
Socrates is famous for his method of questioning, known as the 'Socratic method'. Instead of providing answers, he engaged in dialogues with others to stimulate critical thinking and illuminate the contradictions in their beliefs.
By asking a series of probing questions, Socrates encouraged individuals to examine their assumptions and arrive at more refined and well-thought-out conclusions.
Do you know what happens when you ask questions? When you ask questions, your mind can’t help itself and gets busy finding answers for you. It stops other thoughts, whether helpful or unhelpful, to give you the answers.
Ask yourself, can I help someone, so that I feel excited for the remaining hours of the day?
In order to get clarity, identify what you truly want. We discussed about this a lot throughout the book.
When you notice you are not on track, allow yourself some time to clarify why you want to be different. Do not focus on what you don’t want. You should say 'I want to stay fit' instead of 'I want to reduce weight', to affirm your brain's goal.
You need to determine what your values are, so that you don't feel stuck.
What's important to you? Do you value relationships and loyalty over grit and determination? Make a list of your top 10 values and look for any patterns.
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You need to change your perspective about life to move forward, and stay away from the same rut.
Remember that feeling ‘stuck’ can be a mindset. It is temporary. You can quickly change this feeling by affirming, ‘I am unstoppable.’ Then, tap on your chest, forehead, or cheeks. With self-awareness and conscious effort, you can alter your inner dialogue and perspective to be more flexible.
To get more clarity, ask the following questions:
????? How can I see this situation differently?
????? How will I feel about this situation in a week, three months or three years?
????? What would my 10-year-old self, offer as advice?
????? What would 70-year-old me say? If you are a person over 70, ask yourself, what would my 100-year-old self say?
When you get stuck, don’t sit idle, for weeks or months. Move your body. Go out and chill for a while. ?Or practice yoga by taking a small break
Stretch your neck, shoulders, and arms. Shake, shake, and shake. Or put on some music, and dance with your favorite person.
Set a time and park decisions until then.
Have you ever attended a live session with Tony Robbins? He starts his extensive sessions with captivating energy, encouraging participants to invigorate their bodies by shaking and clapping to a distinctive rhythm. This dynamic movement isn't just about shaking off lethargy; it's a deliberate strategy to cultivate mindfulness and energy.
By engaging in these physical activities, we awaken both mind and body, fostering a heightened state of alertness and readiness for the transformative journey ahead. Initially, it may feel awkward and you might make some odd sounds, but I found it thoroughly enjoyable and felt completely energized for the session.
In your daily life, you can also incorporate this practice before starting your work. If you've ever ended a workday feeling stiff in your neck and shoulders, shake your body to release tension. Shake it off.
Allow yourself some time to clear your head and schedule a date to reassess your situation. Give yourself a pause. Mark the date in your calendar and allow yourself to concentrate on present issues until then. This practice allows you to fully engage in what you're doing without the added burden of questioning yourself and your future. Alternatively, you can simply visit a garden and take a walk.
Take creative action to avoid ‘analysis paralysis’
Once you're clear on what you want, ask yourself, ‘What's the next smallest step I could take?’ Remember, small steps matter.
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