How To Get Pregnant

How to get pregnant is one of the biggest life-changing questions I help people with all the time. I have successfully helped women all over the world conceive, even those diagnosed with unexplained infertility.  

Clinically, the term ‘infertile’ is applied if a couple has difficulty getting pregnant after trying for one year.  Most infertile women are diagnosed with ‘unexplained infertility’, which literally means their reproductive system is fine, so there is no medical reason not to be able to conceive. This is where my proven programme can help.

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This Daily Mail article of how Sunny Bird, of Sunny Bird PR, got pregnant after just one RTT Session, despite 10 years of struggling to conceive, is just one of many real life examples of how powerful this approach is.  I am so proud of all the photos on my baby wall of children who came into the world because of the techniques I now teach.

Are you struggling with unexplained fertility or secondary infertility?  

Do you believe you have left it too late to have a baby or that you have tried everything and that nothing works for you? Would you like to increase your fertility and improve your chances of conceiving naturally or with IVF, then carrying your baby to full term?

What do you think?

Close your eyes and feel the fear that runs through your body when you say the word ‘infertile.’ Now see yourself smiling, this time say the words ‘super fertile’ and recognise how strong and good this makes you feel.

The hormones needed to make pregnancy possible are released in the brain and influenced by the way we think and feel, so negative emotions and beliefs can disrupt them. Words and thoughts direct your body, and create your physical and mental wellbeing and are very important when it comes to how to get pregnant.  

When you take control of your thinking, discover and change any limiting beliefs about yourself and your fertility, you are more likely to achieve your goal of having a baby. This is why we get such powerful results with Rapid Transformational Therapy?, because we work on the root cause of any blocks at a deeper subconscious level, which you may not even be consciously aware of.

You are what you believe

Our beliefs affect everything. Our bodies literally respond to our thoughts and beliefs, so if you think “I’m too old to get pregnant” or “I’m never going to be able to have a baby” then your mind and body will accept this.  

When you understand the healing powers of your mind, you will be able to take back control of your fertility and influence it so that you become a mother.

I have clients who, during a hypnosis session with me, have gone back to the most simple, yet profound images. One remembered being a child watching a western where a woman was screaming repeatedly as she gave birth and died in extreme pain. That child said to herself ‘I am never going to go through that.’

Another remembered being in her mother’s arms as her mother described childbirth to her friends, saying, ‘Oh, it was agony, I thought I was going to be ripped in half, and I thought I was dying from the pain. I bled non-stop and it went on for two days. It was brutal and horrendous.’ That child had a similar thought: ‘I am never going to let that happen to me.’ I have witnessed clients who remember their own birth whilst in hypnosis. If it was very traumatic and frightening, it is the only experience of birth the subconscious has, and its job is to ensure that the person does not experience birth again, including giving birth herself.

What’s stopping you?

In over thirty years of working with women who are having difficulty conceiving, the same blocks of how to get pregnant come up over and over again. Here are the 12 blocks I have identified - you may find you relate to one or more of them?

12 blocks to getting pregnant:

1. Fear of birth.  This is one of the most common fears. So many women fear the unknown; they fear that the pain will be unbearable and unendurable, or, in extreme cases, that they or the baby may die. What they really fear is having no control. This fear can always be removed. Secondary infertility can often be caused by having had a problematic pregnancy or birth with the first baby.

2. Fear of hospitals.  If at any time, you or someone you know has had a bad experience in hospital, you might link being in a hospital to huge pain, and this can be strong enough to block conception.

3. Fear of losing control of your body.  We are taught in the West that we are happy when we are in control of ourselves and our bodies. This is actually not true, but the fear of losing that control may be dominant. It may not just be a fear of losing control of your body throughout pregnancy but a fear of not having the same body afterwards or ever again both internally and externally. A fear that you may not enjoy sex again, or that it may feel different and less pleasurable, is also very common.

4. Guilt from a termination, miscarriage or stillbirth. Losing a baby is traumatic and overwhelming, and many women in this situation tell themselves, ‘I can never go through this again.’ This is a direct instruction to the mind to ensure you never do go through it again by never becoming pregnant again. When women have lost a baby at birth, they can feel terribly guilty that their body failed the baby. They have more guilt that having another child will make them forget the one they lost. Many women who terminate a pregnancy feel guilt and punish themselves at a subconscious level by denying themselves another baby, even though they are unaware that they are doing this. Their mind believes that being pregnant will bring up bad memories, so therefore pregnancy is best avoided.

5. Fear of being a bad parent. This is another very common fear, especially if you had bad parents. We learn what we live. Your parents are the only role models you have, and society loves to tell us that we turn into our parents. However, man children from dysfunctional families go on to become much better parents.

6. Fear of losing your independence. This fear often affects career women. The fear of losing your social life, your freedom to travel, to be spontaneous, and the fear of losing financial independence and promotion can all be relevant, as can a fear of being trapped at home with a baby and feeling lonely, or of being unable to cope.

7. Fear of the baby. This block covers fears that the baby might scream all night, might be handicapped, might grow up to embarrass and shame you, might bankrupt you, might spoil or threaten your relationship with your partner.

8. Fear the baby will grow up and reject you. This fear particularly affects those who rejected their own parents or whose parents were estranged from, or had a poor relationship with, their own parents.

9. Fear of abandonment. The fear that your partner might leave you with the baby, if one of your parents did this, the fear will be more real.

10. Fear of the baby interfering in your relationship. Once the baby is born, you fear you can’t be carefree and have sex whenever the mood takes you, or go out, or that your partner may become jealous of the attention you give to the baby or no longer find you sexy.

11. Fear of not loving the baby. You fear that the baby might not like you, or you may not bond with it, or that your partner may prefer it over you and vice versa.

12. Fear of age. A fear that you are too old to have a baby, too old to raise a baby, too set in your ways to enjoy a baby, and will be ridiculed around younger parents or mistaken for the grandparents.

“What’s wrong with me?”

Many of the women I work with have a belief that pregnancy and motherhood is not available to them except as a distant dream. They avoid the supermarket aisles full of nappies and baby food, as it is just too painful. They cross the road to avoid shops like Mothercare as they find it painful to see women with babies. They have a belief that says ‘This is not available to me, and it is so unfair.’ When they see mothers with three children, they think, ‘I can’t even have one. Why not? What is wrong with me? Why is nature saying no to me?’ They feel excluded from pregnancy and exclude themselves from situations involving mothers and babies. Some can’t even be around their friends’ and relatives’ children.

In order to become a mother, you must do the opposite. You need to walk down those baby aisles, go into baby shops, and look at baby catalogues planning which

products you will buy. Say things aloud, like, ‘My baby is going to have that type of organic baby food, this type of traditional cot or Moses basket, that gorgeous blanket, that soft, cuddly teddy, this pushchair or pram,’ and so on. In your mind, or out loud, talk to your future baby about the items you are going to buy for it. Tell your baby about the fun you are going to have decorating their room, filling up the garden with a sandpit, paddling pool, and toys, and putting the baby bath and all the baby products in your bathroom.

3 keys for how to get pregnant.

If you want to have a baby, here are 3 considerations for you straight away...

1. Every thought you think has a physical reaction in your body.

The strongest force in every human being is that the body has to match what is going on in the mind. It literally has to act in a way that is consistent with our thinking. Thoughts are things. We know that our thoughts have absolute consequences and real physical effects on our bodies.

2. Pain versus pleasure.

Another very strong force in the human psyche is the influence of what we link pain and pleasure to.  When we experience pain, our mind searches hard for the cause and does what it can to stop us going through that experience again.

I am amazed at the number of women I work with who say ‘I won’t let myself believe, because I couldn’t take the pain if it failed.’ I always tell them that they must believe it’s working, no matter what. If it doesn’t work, the pain is awful, but it isn’t lessened by believing it wasn’t going to work anyway. It might even be heightened, because you did not do every single thing you could to make it work. You didn’t believe in it 100 per cent.

3. Take positive action.

I work with women who get pregnant and won’t buy a single item for the baby in case they lose it. They won’t imagine the birth or taking the baby home in case they miscarry. What kind of message is that sending to the baby in the womb? Our babies hear our words and tune in to our thoughts in the womb, so making our words and thoughts positive has a positive effect on the baby. Being calm, happy, and positive is picked up by the baby-and so is being anxious, fearful, and negative.

I ask my clients who are too scared to shop for the baby to go in and buy something, maybe just a pair of tiny socks, as a mark of their faith that their baby is on its way to them. I ask them to put the socks somewhere where they are visible, such as on their bedside table or tucked into a mirror so that they look at them every day and imagine the baby wearing them. I ask them to mentally design and plan their baby’s room with absolute faith and conviction that their baby’s journey to be born is beginning and will be realised.

Scientific proof that this really works

The British Medical Journal published a study where women who had difficulty conceiving were taught to replace their negative thoughts about their chances of getting pregnant with a positive belief that they would get pregnant. Half of them became pregnant. This was in sharp contrast to a control group who were given standard advice. In that group only one out of five conceived. So the likelihood of pregnancy increased from 20% to 50% simply by replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

In another study, at Harvard Medical School, a group of women were taught to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Of that group, 55% went on to have a baby, compared to only 20% of the control group.

Once your subconscious mind has accepted the suggestion and images, it cannot tell the difference between truth and fiction, and it will create the conditions of pregnancy. I believe that if you develop a strong connection with your baby, in your mind, and if you become emotionally deeply connected, it is easier for the baby to physically connect because it feels that connection, and so do you.

You have it within you.

Every thought you have is an instruction, a literal command to your body. Your body listens to and believes every word you say and every thought you have. In fact, it takes those words you so casually use, as direct instructions.

The words we use have a profound effect upon our central nervous system. We want to choose fertility, pregnancy, and motherhood, and we can do this only by proper instructions to our body. To give our body correct instructions, we have to believe it will work. We have to have faith, confidence, and unshakeable certainty that this is going to work.

The most important tool for use in conceiving your baby, is your mind.

The more you can see yourself having a baby, imagine it, and focus on it, the more likely it is to happen.  Your thoughts and images are giving clear instructions from your mind to your body telling it what you expect and need it to do.

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