How To Get Out Of Your Own Way And Start Building Your Business

I remember when I first switched from a traditional bricks and mortar business with a shop front and rent and employees, to an online business model.

I thought it would be so much easier...

So much less stress...

Which technically it should. Because I was no longer having to pay an enormous amount of rent each month, and I was no longer having to put up with employees, and I was no longer having to be there all the time having to be present to make any money.

But it turned out that there was a whole heap of new things to be stressed about...

Even scared about...

And initially, it all came back to the fear of being judged and found not worthy.

My first online business was as a fiction author. I wrote my first book, published it and then sat back and waited for the millions to roll in.

(I wish you could see me right now; I am pretty much on my back on the floor laughing so hard at myself and how naive I was ;-))) )

Of course, rather than the sound of Ka Ching as the dollars rolled in, I heard only crickets.

So, I started to learn how to market my books, how to build a list and engage an audience.

And it worked, kind of...

You see while I was very good at the giving away free books thing, I wasn't so good at the engaging my audience part.

I treated my email list like Gollum with the One Ring.

I treasured it, and guarded it, but I was too scared to email it in case someone unsubscribed.

It's a damn shame cause I kind of missed the chance to create a huge following before all the other self-published authors jumped on board.?

Now, the competition on Amazon is huge, and it is favouring paid ads over organic show, meaning that even if your book has a tonne of great reviews, and people are buying it, it still doesn't show it, unless you are paying them to.

And I missed the wave because I was too scared to share myself in case somebody hated on me.

And you know that happened anyway...

I remember reading this horrific 1-star review which was a personal attack on me, and EVEN THOUGH there were heaps of other amazing 5-star reviews lavishing praise for my book and my writing, it was that stupid 1-star review that was all I could think about.

I actually cried over it.

Cried because somebody I didn't even know, and would probably never meet, left a 'mean girl' review on my book on Amazon.

I mean really, how old am I????

And yet to me, at that moment, it was massively painful, because it was backing up something I secretly feared about myself.

Which is what stops most people from having the success that they want in their lives.

The fear, that other people will laugh at them, or ridicule them, or attack them.

They let that fear hold them down and stop them from ever even putting themselves out there...

And the real reason is because deep down inside, they have these limiting self-beliefs that they formed as a child, that actually tells them they are not good enough.

They are too scared to put themselves out there because if they fail, or if somebody tells them they are wrong, then that belief system will have been backed up...

And that is FAR TOO PAINFUL to risk.?

SO instead, they get caught up in learning, or getting ready, but never, ever in taking any real action that will see them start to build that life that they want.

It's like they are on one side of a chasm, and all of their dreams are on the other side, and even though all the materials they need to build the bridge to get to the other side are there, they never start building.

And so, they remain stuck where they are, desperately, deeply unhappy...

But they smile and pretend that everything is okay, and they keep putting energy in, even though it is not into doing what they need to...

Just so that they feel they are working towards their dreams.

You know, the truth is that it doesn't have to be that hard.

When you are able to shift those beliefs so that they are aligned with what you want, it's not even that you are able to now build that bridge...

THE CHASM IS NO LONGER THERE!!!

There is no longer this vast, yawning gap between where you are and what you want, you are just able to start flowing freely towards it, taking the action that you need.

So, what do I want you to get out of this?

Well, if you are trying to build a life of freedom, you need to stop worrying about what others will think.

Seriously.

People will either love you or hate you, and it actually has nothing to do with you.

It has to do with what is going on inside them, and whether they are on the same path that you are.

It has to do with whether your message makes them feel good or bad.

It has to do with whether or not they feel inspired or threatened by what you are doing.

See the common denominator there???

It is everything to do with them, and nothing to do with you.

Now, here's the kicker...

If you actually try to make everybody like you, you're going to end up kind of BLAHHHHHH!!!!

Boring and uninspiring and no one is going to even take notice of you, let alone remember you.

You need to be polarising to be inspiring.

To call out your peeps, those that LOVE YOU, you also need to create the haters.

And you need to be okay with that.

There are those that go through the world with blinkers on. Not open to anything new, because that would mean they would need to change. (And that is totally unacceptable!!!)

And there are those that like TO BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME, and to do that, they need to be able to point out THOSE THAT ARE WRONG.?

Cause you can't be right unless there is a wrong to contrast it. ;-)?

And there are those that are truly just not going to agree with you, even if they are open to new ideas...and that's totally cool. I mean do you agree with everybody else??

So, make peace with all of the above, and then be open to the fact that not everybody is going to agree with you, or even like you, and that is okay.

If you have a message, you need to get it out there.

If there are people you can help, you need to let them know.

You were born into this world with a purpose, and it's time to start living it.

Stop being worried about what other people think, and start being true to yourself.?

Now if you want to be able to live your life like this, but are unable to shift those beliefs about yourself that are keeping you stuck, jump on my calendar for a chat to see how I can help you get rid of that chasm in your life.?

https://donnajoyusher.com/success-session

In your corner,

Donna Joy

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