How To Get Out Of Self-Sabotage

You probably already know that self-sabotage is a uniquely human behaviour.

Many of us sabotage ourselves when we decide we want something, by doing everything to ensure we don't get it. Crazy, right?

Yet, it may sound familiar to you...

But although self-sabotage is a subconscious behaviour, you can easily change it when you work at a deep level, using hypnosis.

There are many reasons why you might sabotage yourself. It's an extremely common behaviour, rooted in a fear of the unknown.

For example, if you've immersed yourself in mediocrity, the idea of greatness may be frightening.

This is nothing to be ashamed of because we are programmed to be normal, average and mediocre.

From factory education as children, all the way to straight-line poisons in our food, water and environment...

Just look at the total garbage on our TV and movie screens that's supposed to pass as news and entertainment.

Realise that the majority of it is propaganda and entrainment designed to keep you in fear, therefore dependent and weak.

So if you find yourself self-sabotaging, it's not your fault...

Now, ask yourself if you're satisfied with your life - if not, why not?

I wonder if you could get to the bottom of this, by using your conscious mind?

Thinking your way through it, sifting through the millions of messages that have been implanted there...

You probably know this would take you a long, long time in talk therapy to sift through everything, right?

This is why it's best to work on a subconscious level - because this way, you can process 11 million bits of data per second instead of the conscious mind's 140 bits per second.

I've linked a way to work with the subconscious down below.

In the meantime, let's begin to explore why you might self-sabotage.

Here are 3 big reasons that can be created by a myriad of factors:

1. Control.

You might self-sabotage because you have a need to be in control of your circumstances.

The easiest and most certain way to stay in control is to maintain the status quo, to blend in with the tribe, to 'go along to get along'...

Eg. if you put your all into a new project or business, you run the risk of being judged when you launch it.

Fear gets the best of you and you self-sabotage with every reason and justification that it will fail so there's no point in doing the launch.

2. Low self-esteem.

Do you feel unworthy of greatness?

For whatever reason, you may have decided that success and happiness are always around the next corner - never in the present moment.

This is a self-limiting idea that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Our self-talk determines our happiness and success and if this has been polluted in any way, we need to take steps to change it ASAP.

3. Excitement.

Perhaps you undermine your efforts because you're seeking excitement (This one is most familiar to me - I did it for decades).

You feel the need to remain in a constant state of turmoil to distract yourself from painful memories or to ease boredom.

If you see yourself in any of these descriptions, fear not: there are steps you can take to put yourself on the path toward self-mastery.

Consider this process when preparing to get out of self-sabotage:

1. Observe your behaviour.

First off, it's essential that you begin to observe yourself.

You can do this by creating a self-sabotage journal. Make a journal entry every time you realise you've sabotaged yourself. Describe the setting, circumstances and end result.

Avoid over-analysing, just note your observations. Because most often, a person's true intentions are most evident in their actions, rather than their words.

So strive to be an impersonal observer in your journal. Eventually, you'll gain a better understanding of your motives in certain situations.

2. Envision success.

Keep in mind that success is neither black nor white. Cultivate the habit of envisioning what success means to you and remember how it feels to achieve it. If you do this consistently, you may find that what you envision changes over time.

Begin to see success as an integral part of your future but realise there will still be challenges. Just like everyone else, you'll still have to pay taxes and have relationship issues, etc.

3. Let go of the notion of perfection.

As you visualise success, are you still thinking that success equals perfection? If so, it's time to realise that nobody is perfect.

Perfection is what George Bernard Shaw would refer to as "doublethink." Perfection and life are mutually exclusive because perfection is unattainable.

Your subconscious won't allow you to achieve success if you associate success with the impossible task of being perfect.

Think of your subconscious as a computer. It doesn't know how to execute a command called "do the impossible."

If you associate success with fear, your subconscious will fight you the entire way.

Why? Because its primary function is to protect you from perceived threats.

So give yourself permission to anticipate success with excitement.

Perhaps you've been sending your subconscious mind the message, "Protect me from success!"

So, let's put your self-sabotaging behaviours in the past...

You can do this by embracing the good life you deserve by picturing yourself as successful and then refusing to talk yourself out of going for it.

Because the journey to your ideal life starts now so here's a link to a self-hypnosis recording that you can use to start the process:

Hypnosis Recording - Create The Ideal You

Use this recording to visualise your ideal self, living your ideal life, as often as you wish.

I hope you enjoy it - let me know how it goes!