How to gain #Respect from everyone in 30 days

In this age of Influencers, most of them want to become famous. But almost everyone wants to be respected for who they are. 

Gaining a respectable position is a sub-conscious goal for many. Such people end up doing loads of unnecessary tasks in return for little respect. 

With time people realise the futility of such tasks. Instead of earning respect what usually happens is the degradation of their position amongst friends, family and society. 

So, here's the question: Is it really that difficult to earn a respectable position, at least, amongst our friends?

Not really. But, it does require some amount of dedicated effort from your side.

Listed below are 7 ways to gain respect, from others, when followed sincerely within 30 days:

1. Self-respect: Treat yourself right and the way in which you want others to treat you

In many cases, I have noticed people calling themselves to be an inadequate person. Even if they are correct, it is definitely not the way to earn respect from others. 

So the first step is to give your self a little more consideration and respect. 

Avoid saying - "I'm no good...", "I was a fool to have done this...", etc.

Trust me, self-verbal abuse is the biggest crime you are doing to yourself. Stop it as soon as you have read this. 

Imagine this, a farmer goes about saying that he is a dumb person, he made all the wrong choices in planting crops, now he is in loads of debt, etc.

Would you buy his crop? 

Even if you do what would be your impression of him? 

Would you buy his produce out of pity? 

Would you respect someone whom you are showing pity upon?

This applies to you as well. If you keep saying that you are good for nothing, it puts that impression of yours into everyone's mind

2. Dress based upon the occasion

First impressions really last long. But respect is earned based upon how you dress for each venue.

Try and wear clothes which are clean.

Avoid going to the office in party wear, even if casuals are permitted. 

Wearing the right clothes for the place you are going to, is really important. If you feel, you do not have the right clothes, take help of your friends and family. Save money every month just to buy clothes.

In case you do not have anyone to help you with buying the right clothes, then follow the suggestions of online e-commerce portals. They usually have a apparels only sale every month. Save, Browse the offers and Buy the ones you really like.

3. Give respect to others and be kind

The next big step would be staying kind to others. Give respect to people for them to respect you. 

Try to help at least one person every day. Your helping nature will instil respect for you not just from the person who is receiving the help but from all those who are seeing your kind act.

Just one word of caution. Help should be given to only those who are really in need for it and not to everyone. Also, do not overdo the help without taking care of your own works.

4. Stick to your opinions

Attempt to stand by your views at all times. Do not ever contradict yourself. It is really essential to be clear about your thoughts and actions. So think, take your time and form your opinion after analysing as many facts and viewpoints.

5. Get your point across

In group conversations, sometimes we are interrupted and sidelined. But do not give just because of that. 

Be assertive, put your point forward. Clearly tell people that you would like to put your point across. Group members would sub-consciously then give you respect for your standpoint and ability to handle interruptions. 

6. Set and explain your boundaries

Most often people who do not respect themselves, end up being bullied. 

It is tough to explain to your bullies that you want them to stop bothering you. Yet, it is necessary to set boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not. 

To do this follow the steps below

Step 1: Take a scrap of paper or a diary and write down at what all instances you were bullied and made fun of. 

Step 2: Try and find ways you could have avoided such incidents. Either by avoiding certain people, places, phrases, etc. 

Step 3: Make it a rule for yourself to avoid them

Step 4: If you have an unavoidable situation, just explain to the main bully that you do not want to be troubled

Step 5: If people still trouble you, just walk out by giving an excuse and express on the way out that you do not like being bullied like this. 

Step 6: If you can not get out of the place, be calm and respond back only when really needed. Do not react to the nonsense happening

7. Control your emotions and do not LIE!

Anger is by far the worst of our sentiments. It makes us do things which we would not do otherwise. 

Meditate to control your anger. A 5-minute meditation done any time of the day or whenever you are getting angry can work wonders for you. 

Decisions/Actions done when you are angry will only degrade your position. 

Similarly, handling things in calm and by keeping cool will earn you all the more respect. 

Finally, do not lie. All lies are bound to be exposed with time. And when that happens, your respect and credibility will be hit. 

Try and avoid lying to others. Avoid over-exaggerating things. Avoid making up fancy stories. Try and be as real as possible. This does not mean you will share all your private and confidential stuff with everyone. 

Hope the above 7 points help you in gaining that respect which you always wanted. Just follow them for 30 days to see some incredible impact.

Good luck and #StartRespectingYourself