How forgiving helps you to make a better life!!!

“When you forgive someone, that is not necessarily for them,

When you forgive someone, that is for you, for your inner peace”

Guru Gopal Das

We have heard many times from our grandparents and parents, to forgive people, and be kind and merciful. These are the teachings that we learned from our religions and from sacred books, forgive and love people. But when we live our lives in our family and society, the situation happens, that hurts us a lot and it is hard to forgive the people who gave us pain. Sometimes forgiving also depends on how severe your pain is. If we suffered a lot and were cheated on or abused by someone, it is very hard to forgive him.

We are not like a computer or phone in which we can delete our bad memories, and they will be gone forever, we are humans. It takes time to forget the memories. Then how can we forgive others and forget our bad memories?

It is natural to be angry and feel pain, these are our emotions. But all matters is how long we stay in that situation. Negative things like weeds will increase automatically until you consciously take steps to stop them. You have to put a cap on negative and painful things and shift your mind toward positive things.

For example-

If you will hold a glass of water for some time. It will be easier to pick up, but if you will hold it for a long time. It will give you pain. You will put your hands down for the shake of your wrist and heal your pain.

The same goes with human life, the more pain we will keep inside us and will not release that pain, the more painful and worst our life will be. If we forgive people and do not allow others to impact our lives and our emotions, our life will start to change differently and we will create a space for better things in our life.

After researching many cases, I have found people who can not forgive and remember the pain in their life, will always burn with that pain and also create negative thoughts and vibrations. It impacts people around them too. On the other side, we can use our energy to create better things in our life or can fill our life with a lot of opportunities and happiness.

The actions of other people can impact your life for a certain period of time, but if you drag the things for a long time, the pain in your life will increase not decrease. If you want to get rid of that pain, don’t carry the baggage, forgive and finish the matter as fast as you can.

As per spiritual science, things happen because of the Karmic debts of our past births. If we carry the baggage of the grudges the same it will be carried with us in the next birth. The quicker you will overcome any trauma and forgive people, the happier your life will be, do not make your karma journey impacted by others’ actions. Love and compassion is the right way to live a happy life.

Many people have ruined their lives because of pain and guilt and could not forgive themself, others, and God. Learn how to forgive in the following ways-

Forgive Ourself-

Sometimes we are carrying the baggage of our past mistakes, and we are hating ourselves for doing things that we realize later. Maybe those mistakes are done, when you are not mature and now you are more grown up and mature than earlier. You can forgive your old version and can start your life in a better way. You have learned the lessons and experiences that can help you and others. Your guilt can not make you happy but can ruin your life. Realization of your mistake and guilt is also a self-punishment in its own way. You have to move on to create a better life.

Forgive others-

You may face a situation in which you suffered a lot from others’ behavior, cheating, and any intolerable action. You can not forgive them for their mistakes. I agree some pain can not be healed quickly it takes time to heal. Think about if you will itch your wound every day, it will not be healed but will become worst. so remembering your bad moments, will make your present worst. I am not saying you should like their pics on social media and talk to them and allow them to disrespect you again. Forgiving means not remembering that moment again and freeing yourself from that pain done by others. You can forgive others for your shake and still can have certain boundaries.

Forgive God-

I have heard from many people why God did this to me, and why I am so unlucky. Why did this tragedy happen to me? People started to blame God for this. First, God loves every child equally. Sometimes He wants to shake us to make us strong and teach the lessons that help us to face the problems in the future and lead us to a purposeful life. God is full of love and merciful. We all are the same in the eyes of God. The moment you will start to have faith and trust His timing, things will start to change in your life!

It doesn’t take much effort to open your heart and forgive people, yourself, and others, It is all in our control. It’s not for others but for your shake. People spend years with grudges their whole life and they always carry that heavy baggage throughout their life. I am not saying you have to start and talk to them as earlier who gave you pain and cheated, You have to light your heart and make the space for good things and happiness in your life with healthy boundaries.

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