How to Find Your Missing Confidence!

If you BROKE your front tooth would you go and get it fixed?! If YES — Why don’t we do the same for our CONFIDENCE!**

Let’s address the TOP core reasons for low confidence in women and why it drives poor career decisions in our lives.

I was 10 years old, ready to take on the world. Bolshy, loud and knew exactly what I wanted! My breast's were growing faster than my peers and started becoming more aware of my body odour. I didn't know these were early signs of my periods commencing or even what to do with this new knowledge of myself. No one spoke about it, I didn't ask any questions so this was all normal right!??

My parents enrolled me into a grammar school and I needed to take an aptitude test. I wasn’t given any support or external advice on how to prep the theory but I was told how great this school and how amazing this opportunity would be for my life! My emotional barometer needle was vibrating inconsistently.

I was s***t scared!

I knew nada about the test system!

I knew nada of what was going on with my body and my emotions!

My parents had no one in their network who could talk to me about what was going to happen in the test!

I was surrounded by loads of little boys (this made me even more scared there was no one who looked like me!)

My confidence plummeted, my mind went fluffy, I couldn’t concentrate and I did so badly on the test my parents never spoke to me about it again!

My confidence was shattered, and instead of applying for another one my parents deemed this result enough for me to go to a normal state school and not apply anywhere else.

My confidence was even lower!

I was always pitted in a system surrounded by people and programs that were not created for me in mind and I kept losing. I made no connection to my bodily changes emotions or upcoming periods that I just kept losing...

Faith

Hope

Confidence

Then I went into the workspace and the same thing happened all over again…

My perception

I had to present myself professionally in grey boxes filled with people who didn’t look or spoke like me! And would often not have a monthly cycle - if they did it wasn't something that was spoken about.

Who didn’t have a foreign accent or a long foreign surname

I had to add all my skills and present myself in a competitive market all onto a 1 A4 bit of paper called a resume!

The interview

I had to do a test of my character and skills — in a room with a spotlight and dressed in “professional” attire that I wouldn’t wear once I got the job!

I was just grateful to get the job offer — my low confidence was getting a hit of dopamine, hearing yes you got the job! — that it didn’t matter that I didn’t ask any questions about my terms and my conditions.

Got the job

I was surrounded by men who spoke in “banter” language with no translation

Environments filled with micro — aggression towards my womanly sensibilities

Periods being a taboo word in the office and never mentioned

And I had to repeat this process every single time!

The above is one of the many reasons women often don’t have a linear CV.

Let’s go back

My career advisor at school wasn’t qualified to discuss

How I would manage my Cycle with my career choices

How I would align my Cycle with my working life

How I would manage my Self-Worth during my career journey

How to manage my Confidence when it depletes

How to manage my Self-Care in unnatural working environments

“If Confidence was something that we wore on our face, everyone would go out and buy it!”

Above quote from one of the women I coached, She’d spent over 10 years working at the height of her media career in Jamaica. Her family decided to settle in London and she applied for the first role she saw. Got the job but wasn’t happy.

But where do I go, whom do I speak to, my skills aren’t aligned to the UK market, my accent is super strong, I don’t have a network here right?

We spoke at length about her cycle and goals, created a road map and began the work.

3 months later she was met with abundant choices and a role in a reputable media company that was prepared to pay her on her salary terms and working requirements.

I’ve sped up the tears, the painful moments, the funny exchanges and the elated whatsapp voice notes. The process to arrive at confidence…

This amazing woman had an Aha moment in our session and of course went on to boss her interview and salary negotiations and is living in Boss Lady Mode!

Why does this problem exists

Are you investing in your self-confidence?

Are you investing in your cycle knowledge ?

What tools are you using to ensure when running low you can grab a self-confidence juice and keep going?

If your teeth fell out today you will go repair it tomorrow, why not do the same for your confidence?

I wonder if you are stuck in a job you don’t like or seeking more significant meaning in your career, or thinking about a career change?

Download the guide I use to align my cycle and #BossMyLife! >>HERE https://www.pamellabisson.com/free-guide