How to feel your feelings

Over the last couple of weeks I have been waking up in the middle of the night with strong sensations in my solar plexus area and tightness in my chest. This is not a usual experience for me. When people ask the phrase “what keeps you up in the night?” I have usually said not much. I generally find I sleep quite well. So you can imagine these types of feelings were quite startling for me. In life when events occur we naturally have an automatic reaction. However, people living with Intentionality choose to respond rather than react. Let me use my situation as an example. When I woke up, I noticed these sensations. I had an automatic reaction which wasn’t very pleasant - actually it was quite scary. I could have easily indulged these sensations and created a story in my mind about what was happening to me - this would have sent me into a reactionary state. Instead of reacting, I used breath to drop into my body and out of my mind. This enabled me to slow down and observe what was happening. I was then able to tap into my experiences and call forward what would be the best for me in the present moment. Would reacting and creating negative stories be good for me or is there another path? How could I respond not react? Luckily I have been trained as a facilitator in an incredible healing technique called Emotional Clearing that allowed me to do so.

Learn to have a positive experience of negative emotions, rather than a non-existent experience with difficult emotions.

This is a line that my teacher and creator of the Emotional Clearing process, John Ruskan, would repeat over and over again.

I was certainly experiencing some negative emotions and so far it wasn’t a positive experience so here was an opportunity for me to practice what I preach and do the work.

I used my breath to relax deep into my body and drop into an alpha state (brain wave patterns slow to 9 to 12 cycles per second), this is the doorway to the subconscious. I then connected to the masculine, yang sun energy from above and the feminine, yin earth energy from below until I felt safe in my aura and was deeply grounded. I then transitioned to the witness and started to observe what was going on for me. When I would get sensations, I would breath into them to expand them. I didn’t need to try to find out why I had these emotions because this would just be an attachment that would likely lead to judging and blaming. All I wanted to do was to find any suppressed negative energy and allow it to come up and out of me so it was released for good. 

This part is extremely hard for our modern day rational minds as we have been taught that “why” is so important. Energy doesn’t work this way, and our emotions are just energy in motion (e-motion). When we are feeling negative feelings it is often because the energy is no longer in motion. It is stuck. This is why this process is so important. It gets the energy flowing and allows you to let go of things that are no longer needed or potentially weren’t yours in the first place.

After a series of nights of doing this and then some deep introspection work through journaling I received some insight as to what was happening to me. I am in the process of cutting a large cord which is the final connection to a previous chapter in my life. Even though I know it is the best thing for me, there is so much emotion tied up in it. By cutting this cord, I am effectively giving up this other version of myself. A version that I had created through a response to the circumstances in my life in order to feel safe and whole and an identity I had grown very attached to. 

So now what do I need to do? I need to grieve this version of myself. To the logical and rational left brain thinking person, you might be highly skeptical of this work.  This resistance is what will stop you from realizing your full potential and will eventually result in physical ailments as well.  We are all a big bundle of emotions and our work is to feel them, REALLY feel them and then release them so we can connect to our True Nature and get on the path to wholeness.

So next time you are having a negative experience or overwhelmed by your emotions, stop and ask yourself ‘How can I respond rather than react?’

If you would like to learn more about this process I highly recommend you read John’s new book ‘Deep Clearing’ which gives you a deep understanding of the process and a number of examples of client work so you can see how beneficial this process is.  I am also happy for you to reach out to me personally as this is important work that I integrate in my 1:1 Intentionality Coaching. - you can book in a call on my calendar here for a complimentary 30min coaching call. 

If a number of us take steps to clear ourselves on the inside now, not only do we heal and make ourselves impervious to outer negativity, but we strengthen the collective consciousness that can make a difference in the world.