How effective are your nonprofit leadership decisions?

As a nonprofit leader, we must be aware of how our decisions shape how others see us, our reputation and how they choose to work with us. This soft skill is often not taught to new leaders, but it is an incredibly important skill you need to have!

Let's start with an example of behavioural choices

Someone lied to me the other day. It was a lie to cover up a lie. I knew it right away. I'm not sure that they knew it, though. Maybe not consciously. I think it's a habit for them.

Regardless of whether they knew or not that they lied to me, their habit of lying caused me to lose another measure of trust in them.?

Trust is foundational for effective nonprofit leadership

Trust, one of the foundations of leadership, is built by leaders' decisions, one decision at a time. Each decision builds on the other, solidifying how much someone feels you are trustworthy. However, how much someone trusts you can come crashing down, broken by one seemingly small decision.

Our choices affect our trustworthiness as a nonprofit leader

Many of our decisions in leadership and life are unconscious, and this is where problems can begin. No, we can't think about every little choice and decision we make. However, as leaders, we need to be more consciously aware of how we make decisions, small and big. Furthermore, we must be much more aware of our unconscious habits around certain decisions.?

Your decisions paint a portrait of who you are.

Each decision is a brush stroke of your character. Your character is who you are, not what you do. It's how people talk about you. Your character is your reputation or what they think about you.?

For example, we may speak in awe of certain women's characteristics:

• She is so reliable.?
• I love her honesty.
• What grace she has!
• That is a woman of integrity.
• Such determination and persistence.
• I appreciate her ability to be decisive.?
• She has a clear head on her shoulders.

Then, at times, we cringe at other character traits that some women exude:

• She's so cold.?
• She's so picky.
• I can't trust her.??
• She's condescending and demeaning.
• That woman would cut off her leg if it meant she could save a buck!

So you see, your reputation and character matters!

Back to the person who lied to me.

The thing is, I know this person will add other lies to the painting regularly. As such, I see them as a liar. Don't get me wrong. These are not always big lies. But, often, the lies I am talking about are:

• Things like neglecting to share specific details of a story.
• Fudged timelines of events.
• Embellishments of a story.?

It makes me wonder what big things they will lie about when they lie about these little things.

But it's not only lying. How about racist humour?

I know someone else who makes comments about certain races, genders, religions or personalities but always minimizes their supposed intended impact with a joke, a chuckle or a caveat that they are not biased or prejudiced. Oh, but the picture they are painting, by choosing to say these things in the first place, tells a different story to my eyes.

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Consider the choices you make as a nonprofit leader

These are more dramatic examples of how we shape our character. However, think now about the much more subtle decisions you make all day long and how they may affect how others view you as their leader.?

• When you answer every phone call, text, or chat within minutes, you paint a picture of someone who is readily available and, perhaps, who needs to be informed all the time, a bit controlling.
• When someone comes to you with a problem, and you solve the problem for them, you paint the picture of someone knowledgeable, intelligent and a good problem solver. But, unfortunately, you may also paint a picture of someone who doesn't trust other people to solve their own problems.?
• When you tell people it's OK to chat and visit at work because it's good to build relationships, but you rarely join in, you may paint a picture of someone who doesn't believe those social times are valuable or not beneath upper management.?

These unconscious, small decisions often paint a picture of the type of leader you are. The point is to choose the image you're painting. To do that requires you to be more conscious of your decision-making, especially your micro-decisions. Micro-decisions are made all day long and are rarely seen as decisions because they are often more like habits. But make no doubt about it, you can choose differently.?

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Consider these examples of micro-decisions:

• Picking your phone up several times during the conversation to check your notifications, email or social media.
• or choosing to leave your phone in the other room or in your pocket?
• Rolling your eyes when someone complains again about something that's been discussed multiple times.
• ?or taking a deep breath before you respond to a triggering comment
• Snapping a little more aggressively than you meant to at someone?
• or grabbing some food to refuel yourself before you get hangry
• Meaning to respond to just one more email before you leave for the day but then dealing with one more and another and another.
• or closing your computer at the time you said you were leaving
• Creating a list of things that need to be "addressed" before going into staff supervision?
• or reminding yourself of your employee's strengths before going to have a conversation with them and how you can use those strengths to develop their competence
• Keeping your head down, praying no one will talk to you when you walk down the hall to your office
• Smiling and making eye contact with people when you walk down the hall, responding to bids for your attention with "I don't have time to chat about that now. Can we do it at 2 pm? I'll have 15 minutes then."

Micro decisions shape your character, paint a picture of who you are and tell others the type of leader you are.

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3 steps to becoming more conscious of your MICRO-DECISIONS and making better ones!

1?? Pick a short period each day for a week.

30 - 60 minutes is good enough. It could be a meeting, 1-1 conversation, or when you are working at your computer.?

2?? Remind yourself to do self-reflection for 1 minute after the time

Set a timer to go off at the end of that time

Create a reminder in your calendar to notify you

3?? Make a note of any micro-decisions you made during that period

On a piece of paper, in your notebook or on an electronic note, make one of your micro-decisions

Each time you do this, you'll become more and more conscious of the micro-decisions you are painting.

Take some time to consider if these micro-decisions paint the picture of the leader you want to be. If not, what will you need to do to become more conscious about these micro-decisions, and how will you change them?

Our decisions shape us and shape others' views of us.?

Do your decisions match what you want that view to be?

What to read next:

• How to worry less about what you DO and plan more for who you are BEING
• Nonprofit Leaders | 10 important questions you must ask before your next decision
• Should you care more about what your nonprofit employees think about you?

Podcasts to listen to:

• Episode # 16 - Discerning Before Deciding - Here's How
• Episode # 32 - Three questions to help you make better decisions
• Episode # 58 - Learn a decisive decision-making hack and how to use it - For women leaders

You probably have not been taught how to make decisive decisions.

Most women leaders in nonprofits have never received training on HOW to make decisions decisively, yet decisiveness is a crucial competency of leaders. To feel confident in making decisions, you need to know how to make decisions!

How you make decisions is critical for effective leadership. When you are ready to improve your decision-making, join The Training Library and review this webinar: Decisive Decision Making . You will learn the three-step process to make decisions quickly and efficiently with your integrity intact.