How does your state of being affect conversations you have with others and the results you are getting?

Every fragment of self-talk is a little story in the head that goes around, and then you look at reality through the lens of the little story – Eckhart Tolle

What is your Being?

Your Being is the essence of who you are, some people call it Soul, some call it Higher Self, some call it consciousness, some call it God, and some call it Inner Being. I'm calling it Inner Being or the Source that is flowing through you all the time, the Energy that you are.

See at our core we are all made from the same thing – pure positive energy, we are all coming from the same place the Source and we are going to go to the same place the Source ??

Then to make it fun here on Earth in our physicality we have the mind as a gift to navigate and create what we want. But unfortunately for thousands of years, we have been trained to believe that we are our mind, our thoughts. And we have been also trained that if we want to be happy and get what we want we need to search for it outside of ourselves.

Until today some people believe that God or Source is outside of them when the reality is, that you will never find it outside because you need to realize your Being from inside. It is already flowing through you and makes your blood circulate and make your heartbeat. You are just not aware of it.

And if you are not aware of your Being flowing through you then you are looking at everything from a very limited perspective.

The perspective of the human conditioned mind is not a true perspective because it is not who you are. Looking at yourself and the world from this perspective is going to make you defensive arrogant, jealous, looking for love in all the wrong places, expecting others to behave how you want so you can feel good.

Mind is never satisfied and is always looking for something outside to get satisfied and it is never enough. So when you live in that perspective for a long period all kind of disease starts to occur because there is not enough new Energy flowing through you. You are blocking the flow of Source through you with your negative, self-critical perspective.

If you are relatively new to this subject and you ask

How can I realize the Being part of me?

The first step is to make a decision that you want to shift and why you want to shift. When you look at the results you are getting and you don't like them if you continue doing and doing more nothing will change.

Because it is not about doing, it doesn't start with doing but it starts with Being.

And main reason people continue doing because they are so vulnerable they are so afraid that they just keep doing until they can't do doing anymore in some cases.

So, the majority of people are motivated to do something from fear, which is not your true state of Being, and this is why doing is not bringing you the results you want.

The main fear is always fear about not having enough money, people have such a limited perspective of money that it takes over their lives and they are spending their money on things that they don't need or continuously trying to get more degrees to know more.

I'm not criticizing studying but what I'm pointing to is that knowing will not help until you realize your Being and experience it. Only then you can use your knowledge and I'm talking about academic knowledge here.

So how does your state of being affect your conversations and the results you are getting?

Let's say you are a very well-educated person, you have all sorts of degrees and you finished school with good grades, you may even have some background in psychology to help you manipulate your behavior or the behavior of others, and you may even have written some books and you are relatively successful in making money.

So to some point, it works in your life and it helps but something is missing and you are not getting the results you want, you are not satisfied, you are not fulfilled. And when I'm talking about fulfillment, I'm not talking in one area but in all areas of your life

Your finances, your health, and your relationship this is fulfillment.

So when you are having a conversation with someone and even if you know psychological tricks you will not get the results you want because there is not enough action in the world to make up for the misaligned energy of your Being.

Usually, your conversations are going to be needy, defensive, aggressive, and arrogant.

Why?

Because if you don't have a good relationship with yourself and you don't see yourself from the essence of who you are, you are not going to see the best in others.

So when you are let's say self-critical of yourself, you will also hold the same perspective of others. And when you have conversations your opinion about them is active even if it is unspoken. And they pick up on that unspoken opinion you hold about them and will fight back or be defensive.

Can you see now you both fight who is right and who is wrong, defending your point of view? When in reality there is nothing right or wrong, it is just what is, different perspectives.

Or you will just tolerate the situation and you will not set your boundaries because of the fear of what they are going to do.

Or you will say often YES to what you don't want then you will resent it.

If you reflect on your life, you can see why your results are not effective and why you can't build meaningful relationships with others, why you are not feeling fulfilled and satisfied, happy.

What is the difference when you speak from the perspective of your Being the essence of who you are?

You sense sure footing, you are confident, you are assertive, and you have no need to explain yourself to others or to prove your point of view. Because you know your truth and it is enough, you can set boundaries and say No to people, and you can clearly say Yes to everything pleasing to you without being guilty of how others will feel.

Speaking from the perspective of Being, the true essence of who you are will give you the confidence that you need. But to get there you need to Be it, you need to experience a connection to the essence of who you are.

You need to be aware enough to sense when you disconnect and be able to connect as quickly as you can. This is 100% possible just requires knowledge of who you are and practice.

So when you are having conversations coming from your Being you don't need to use psychologist tricks to trick others to behave how you want them to behave. You have a loving and caring relationship with yourself and when you love and adore yourself others will too.

Because every relationship we have is just a reflection of the relationship with have with ourselves with our Inner Being, and with the Source.

Once you connect to the essence of who you are to your Inner Being or Source, life gets much easier, funnier, and more enjoyable. Now you are living you are not struggling to move from one day to another until you die.

Being is pure love, pure positive energy. There are 31 aspects of your Being according to the Ontological approach and you are either focused on love or fear, when you are fearful you are vulnerable. When you are connecting to the essence of your Being you are your authentic self.

Mind is Fear

Everything is about perspective and focus. You are free to focus on love or fear and the majority are focusing on fear not even realizing that they are doing it.

The majority of people don't even realize that they are never in the NOW they are always in the Future or their past and missing the very important point of NOW. The essence of who you are is never in the past, it is always focused on a NOW but you need to shift your perspective to focus the same way and realize the essence of your being.

You can use your mind once you are connected to the Source within. If you are not you will be used by your mind and that's how the majority of people live.

Ask yourself a question.

What I would like to change in my life now? and then answer I would like to change the way I feel about …. you can finish because you know what it is you want to change.

See it is not about doing something but first changing the way you feel even if conditions around you are not changing. That's how you will have effective communications with others, and you will get the results you want.

Some people today offer AI? for you to use to be able to handle difficult conversations. I'm not criticizing AI, it has positives and negatives. But in the end, it is just a robot it is artificial intelligence that has nothing to do with the Infinite Intelligence coming from the source of who you are.

So even if you use AI, you can also download some audio books and learn words what to say but again if you are going to say it but you are going to feel fear, you are going to be vulnerable, and defensive doesn't matter what you say it will not be received as you want, you will not get results you want, because you are not talking to AI but you are talking to another human BEING.

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Communications are the heart of our life experience here on Earth.

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