Throw The Turd On The Table!

Would you allow for a turd to just lay there and smell in your home or work environment? You do not. But we deal with it a lot every day, especially the figurative ones. Communication problems, misalignment, issues, and observations - the kinds that get smellier the more you ignore. What type are you stuck on now?

Many people choose not to address mishaps or communication gaps as they should.

Do not carry troubles around. It is unhealthy, dangerous, and deadly. Get them out instead of keeping them in or hidden.

I know. It is a gross analogy. But an accurate one.

How? Feel, release, and clean them up. This article will deliver just that.

Why People Stay Emotionally "Constipated"

Occasionally holding in feelings is not harmful. Some things are just better left unsaid. Awkwardness gets the better of us sometimes. And often, manners win.

Consider being in an uncomfortable Zoom meeting. You do not tell the speaker to wrap it up because you want to get going. Or when your partner cooks you a bland-tasting chicken. You will not tell them the food was underwhelming unless you want to be upfront about it.

Meanwhile, some matters have to be flushed out. You cannot let yourself get constipated and sick in the long run. If a digital strategy is not working, speak up. When a system needs more security, get to planning. If a team member is not performing, address it.

You see, pretty much everyone carries a concern in their pocket—a hot, pungent one. While occasionally holding it in provides temporary cleanliness, remaining constipated eventually jeopardizes you.

Why You Need To "Push Out" Your Issues

Release the complication that needs to be looked at - feedback, observations, misalignment, or whatever issue you have. Although it can get uncomfortable, the best thing to do is to unleash and deliver them.

Remaining constipated with suppressed plight causes several complications. You can experience pain and discomfort. Or worse, poison yourself to death. But if you throw it on the table, regardless of how hard it can get, it gets the attention it rightfully deserves.

It is a personal choice. But you should liberate yourself when the matter needs urgent addressing and if it affects not only you. And in some instances, doing so saves you from unwanted attention and confrontation.

Pull the turd out of your pocket. Set it on the table. Talk about it, let it air out so the “turd” can be cleaned up. You do not want to sit or step on it. And most likely, you do not want to find it somewhere to spread and pile up.

How To "Clean It Up"

Communication and problem-solving. That is how you wash off a turd. Get it on the table fast. Take a look, smell, and clean it up. Always be open to getting in the mess to unspoil yourself from the muck. Here are three simple steps.

Be Clear

Define the specific issue you have. Practice articulating it. Understand who needs to know and what their role is once you "throw it on the table."

If you need advice, find a trusted person in your life to discuss; a friend, spouse, colleague.

You are not alone in your feelings. Reach out and maybe discover folks who experience the same. Seek possibilities or solutions you had not previously considered. Get clear on what you need to say and whom to say it to.

Be Honest.

Honesty is the best policy. It is also the most effective laxative you have. When you acknowledge your feelings, you become more aware of who you are. It grows your person too.

This type of openness also makes a big difference in resolving issues- especially in business and leadership. Peers always admire a truthful fellow. They hold them in high esteem because such fellow has nothing to fear.

Remember, every lie told is a debt to the truth. You do not know how and when debt is paid because most lies reveal themselves in unexpected ways. So as much as you can, be honest.

Be Direct.

Gulp down a courage "fiber" supplement and say precisely what you mean. Speak your truth. Be straightforward with your affairs and worry less about unwelcome feedback.

Be frank but do not be rude. Constructive criticisms make your vendor offer better products, help your business expand, and better your entrepreneur friend's brand. But direct criticism can damage relationships, hurt people's feelings, and make you look like a bully.

Tactfulness works. In everywhere you go, implement it and foster a culture of respect. If you are a leader, your initiatives will result in higher job satisfaction and better conflict resolutions. Most importantly, you will nurture a courteous work environment.

Conclusion

Address communication issues, misalignments, and tenuous feelings. Everybody carries a turd in their pocket at some point. But you have to let them out. Let them be looked at and cleaned. Then, communicate with clarity, honesty, and be direct so you can move forward with a clean slate.

Get problems on the table fast, even if it gets a little messy. Doing so is better than stepping, sitting, or finding them somewhere else. Do not let difficulties poison you if you can do something about it.